Last night my boyfriend was asked by his best friend's mother when he planned to pop the question to me (yeah, she's very nosey). He told her he didn't want to rush anything. To make a long story short she reminded him we've been dating for over a year and have lived together almost a year and that's no longer considered a "rush". He told her he wanted to get some things straightened out money-wise before any long term commitments were made. The thing that makes me confused about this is that he just bought a new $1100 56" TV, a $300 stand for the new TV, an Xbox 360 for $400, he bought new furniture last year right before I moved in that was $2300 (couch, love seat, end tables, and coffee table), and just got a '99 Chevy Tahoe a few days ago for $8100. The only thing he really needed was the new truck. He can definitely afford these things but, obviously, it'll be a while before everything is "straightened out". Does he just not want to marry me?
2007-03-22 03:28:12 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FYI:
I'll be 21 in May, he just turned 23.
This has been bothering me since last night when he told me about the conversation so I just wanted some input/opinions.
We used to talk about getting married all the time the first few months we started dating but now he hardly ever mentions it
2007-03-22 03:28:32 · update #1
Well whatever the situation is and all the money he spend on his game console and stand could have bought lots of things even a nice engagement ring for you, but his mother does not need to be prying into that aspect of the relationship reguardless of what is going on and just let him do his thing, when he feels he is ready that is when he will do it, and it is not because he wants to it may be because he wants to make sure this is the right thing and that this what he wants. Just give a little time and then ask him again if you feel the need or let him come to you. I am sure that you love him and want to be with him, but space is not such a bad thing. Although tell him when you do talk to him that all the unnecessary spending that he is doing he needs to consider cutting down own in the future.
2007-03-22 03:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can force him to marry you.....Drop a few more hints. If you can wait a year, surely you could wait a month & see what happens.
Take a decision after a month. You're still 21 & there's a long way ahead. Don't screw up your life by being too hasty.
2007-03-22 10:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by daffy duck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋