If you already had 18 kids living in your house, would you take in another one?

Question

my husband and i have 16 kids (8 [ 5 his , 3 adopted] from his side, 5 [ 3 mine, 2 adopted ]from my side, and 3 [1 ours, 1 adopted, 1 foster care] from after we married), and also my niece and nephew are living with us for a while. they range in ages from 10 mo. - 19. We were recently at the childrens shelter to see about adopting our 16 year old foster son, when we met a child (with a past I'll fail to mention) there named Brittany. She was 13 and i just wanted to wrap her in my arms and tell her that nobody would ever hurt her again. i know it's not possible to take in every orphaned or hurting child in the world, despite the fact that if i could i would, but should we consider taking her in. Money and room is not an option. we have plenty of both to care for our kids. but i don't know how the others would respond. my husband feels the same way i do, but is stilla little unsure. opinions, thoughts?

Answer 1

what's one more?If only one child turns out well that will be a job well done.The one you pass up may be the one who needs you the most.

Answer 2

Well, you mentioned that the 13 year old has a past that you will fail to mention. Now, you already have 6 adopted children, but you didn't mention if there past is good or bad. I would ask the 18 kids that you already have, or rather the ones that are big enough to give an opinion, what they think about yet another sibling. It may not be that you have all of the resources to take on such an exciting addition, but that your family may already feel that 18 is enough for them.

Sometimes, we may see the Brittany's of the world and want to do everything that we can to help. And sometimes, we can give more or our attention to Brittany and take away time from others who may need us a little more than we think. And also, the sword cuts both ways. There are people, kids in the world with such a haunted past that we may not be ready to have yet another person come in to our life promising to make sure that no one ever hurts us again. That is ultimately a promise that can be fully be kept because other kids are cruel, teachers can be cruel, neighbors can be cruel and siblings can be cruel.

I hope you look at both side of the sword before you decide to make a cutting decision.

Best of Luck to you and your Huge Family!

Answer 3

Despite Conventional Wisdom,
The more love you give it is true the more love you will feel. I am the oldest of 11 children. I remember the early 1970's neighbours thought us mad, because we always made room for draft dodgers. They did not think us mad for having the draft dodgers (most felt the U.S. government had some ulterior motives) and were eating their young and felt Canada should be a sanctuary. As people any where like to think if your government turns on you your neighbour will grant you asylum. I was only 13 at the time but recalling those young teenage boys being so scared, and we would all watch the news after dinner and see graphic shots of both American and Vietnamese blown apart. I cried for them all. Oh before the neighbours just thought we had so many kids we would not have room etc. (3 or 4 brothers were yet to be born.) and 5 of my siblings were adopted over the years; but as my parents always said "what's another spud in the pot" ( a spud is a potato) Anyways we were all grateful for the experience of opening our house to rotating teenagers as they found work and apartments. They were so young a nd scared, alone in a strange country, while their land called them coward and deserters. You cannot save everybody, but you save the ones you can and you feel good doing it. Humans are made to help each other, so you get great satisfaction saving the word one child at a time...Mary

Answer 4

If money and space are not an issue, then go for it. I'd love to be able to do what you guys do, being foster parents and adopting kids and all that. It might help to have a family meeting with the other kids (the ones old enough to understand) and talk about this girl and see what the other kids think. Especially if she's 13, and you have other children her age, they would probably be the most affected by it, so it would be a good idea to involve them from the start. Good luck!

Answer 5

Wow, look out extra low priced via the Dozen, huh? Gosh and that i presumed that i replaced into aggravated on the "Boy, you have your palms finished" remark.. :) The Lord might desire to've blessed you previous all comprehension in case you've gotten sufficient funds that many toddlers and a have a house that large. in case you sense extra approximately take in this female and funds and room isn't a controversy, then do it. Do you sense you could help her along with her subject concerns? i comprehend you comprehend that fairly each foster baby comes with many, many subject concerns. Your "approximately Me" says which you're expecting 2 extra toddlers... is this some thing you sense you could handle on an identical time as pregnant/with a newborn, purely one thing to think of roughly. Pray approximately it.. ask your husband to wish approximately it.. pray jointly.. pray as a family individuals... i'm helpful you will get the respond you prefer.

Answer 6

if you want but personally i could never handle that many biologically speaking and then adopted children where do u get the nerves but since young girl needs you go ahead i understand your situation but a little advice for you grab yourself a NANNY please dont have a heart attack over these kids GOOD luck

Answer 7

Whats one more? Talk to the kids. Im sure they wouldnt mind more help around the house and another sister! Wow, you need to be on Oprah!

Answer 8

wow, there should be more of you in this world, obviously you've shown the others how to be a carring human being, i think they would be ok with it, why dont you have a family gathering and talk to them about it. You may be surprised at how they react.

Answer 9

Sounds like a lot of love in your family, take the girl. You all ready have her in your heart, if you don't you will constantly be thinking about her. GL =)

Answer 10

Give someone else a chance to adopt her first. Other people want children as well.

Answer 11

I'd round the number and take 2 !