I am a constant worrier. I am always worried that my bf will find someone else.?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 yrs. I always worry about everything. I know he is a great guy & wouldnt ever cheat on me or hurt me. He never tells me im pretty. I feel like im not secure in my relationship. I want to be confident. Everyone tells me im beautiful & makes compliments but, he never does. Is it my lack of confidence & constant worrying? Please help me!

Answer 1

if he loves you he will not leave you. Tell him you would like him to tell you that you are pretty sometimes. How will he know if you don't tell him. He might just asume you know his feelings. You need to have communication. Don't worry be happy

Answer 2

i completely understand where you are coming from, i have been there and i'm still battling mine. I keep my heart on a short leash cause i'm afriad of getting hurt and i feel like i'll get hurt again even though we have been together for 2 years and 4 months. He says he is a one woman man, and we live together and all but there are a few things i get upset over. thats normal in a relationship. Your man should tell you how pretty you are, what he is doing is called emotional and mental abuse to you. Your self esteem seems to be low which i am the same way, and it plays a big roll in things cause then some guys think they can get away with alot more.
The only kind of advice that i can give you is that ever you start standing up to yourself and tell yourself not to worry about things as much. If you think you have a big problem with this, what i did was get in touch with a counsellor and they always help cause after the session, you feel great and things are no longer on your chest it's like all the problems floated away. Good luck!

Answer 3

First thing first, how do you think you look? I understand exactly what you mean when you say you need to hear it from him, men are different from women as we all know now by now. If you don't think he compliments you enough, don't expect him to be a mind reader let him know. Obviously you know he is a great guy and you're happy with him. Don't let something that small affect your relationship. The part about you worrying that's no biggie. People worry everyday, everyone worries about one thing or another just don't allow your worries to run your life or make you go crazy and mess up your relationship. If you really need to hear you're beautiful get up every morning look in the mirror and tell yourself, Dam I'm sexy today. But you have to tell him how you think.

Answer 4

Theres a saying that goes "what you fear will happen to you" and after I heard that I quit fearing being struck by lightening! Look, if he somehow changed during the 2 years of dating then you have a problem. If you can contrast how he was to how he is now then you migt be facing the fact that youre drifting apart. But if he was always like this then you have nothing to worry about. Guys withdraw themselves when they bored or are cheating. You need to find it within yourself to know what the limit is and walk out when you reached that limit. Theres no way you can change a man... they come as is and never change... dont try to change history.

Answer 5

u've been with him 4 2 yrs so u should start 2 trust him.u probaly don't know how much he loves u.obviously he thinks ur pretty and loves u all the world,otherwise he would av left u already.he seems like the guy who wants to be commited 2 u.he probably doesn't compliment u coz he don't know how u wld react or he might not be a romantic guy.probably he's not the guy 4 u.confrony him 2 c how committed he is 2 u.

Answer 6

After two years being with him you should be by now sure that this relationship is founded in something more that physical attraction, hence is no surprise that he doesn´t tell you constantly that you´re pretty.
If you continue to worry about nothing then chances are that he could get tired of that and really leave you, is not that deep in your mind what you want?, I mean you truly expect to happen the worst in order to stop worrying, if that is the case you are suffering from now and there´s no point in that...

Answer 7

OMG..i swear we could be twin..i am the same way..i constantly worry about my guy..he doesnt compliment me..but compliments others..he told me its hard to be faithful..when he doesnt call i get worried..i feel likei am not enough for him..i want to get away from him somewhat..simply because my worrying is making me sick..he needs to grow up..alot...i have so much questions and insecurity becasue of him..i dont know how long we will last..he is 31 and act like its still ok to live with his mom and not do anything with his life..

Answer 8

Say he actually DID find someone else...what's the WORST that could happen?? You lose a guy who wasn't worth holding onto anyway.
If he's given you ZILCH for a reason not to trust him, then you're just being paranoid. But worrying about it reasonless will just waste a lot of energy for nothing.

Answer 9

well u need to relax
this is the situation
many men do not express there true feelings to a woman
iguess its a man thing i noticed i used to do it and my friends do it too
so dont feel bad u must be beautiful
dont think ur bf doesnt think ur

stop worryin u r going to drive ur self nuts
so stop it now

now if r treating him well and all and he leaves for another woman u know what?????? he didnt deserve u
it will be he at the end regretting his decision

i used to be like this when i was with my x and i used to stress myself out too much i ve learn life is too good n short to let things stress me out

go with that flow and u will be fine

good luck

Answer 10

no..i'm no longer a worrier...i do no longer problem approximately issues i'm no longer able to alter so i tend to be extremely comfortable approximately each little thing. i problem if acquaintances have a concern...yet no longer contacts right here...as i don't comprehend them too nicely.