me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and we are expecting a little boy in may. however he has a 12 year old son from a previous relationship and the little boy is crazy!!! at first me and his son got along fine we went out every weekend i took him shopping and everything this is when his mom wouldn;t get him on the weekends. now that is mom picks him up every weekend he has been really disrespectful towards me and every time i bring it up to his father, his father does put him in his place but where did all this come from? i don't know if he's jealous about the baby or what but it needs to stop. he also will be mean when his father is not around but as soon as he comes around he's the greatest little boy ever!! what do i do without hurting me and his father's relationship?
2007-03-22 03:22:00 · 2 answers · asked by msmarieww 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds to me that the boy has issues with the new baby coming. Reassure him that your love and his fathers love for him is not going to diminish because of the new baby. Let his father tell him that there was no going back with his mother, before you got pregnant you got along and maybe he thought it would just pass but now that the new baby is soon to be here he is realizing that that is not possible for his father and real mother to get back together and you are here to stay. Try to involve him in setting up the baby room, maybe even have him come to the hospital when you go into labour, so he feels that he is a part of this 'new' family. It could be that his real mother has said somethings that are detrimental to you. Using him to get to you for you taking 'her' man away, even though they were probably not together when you did meet. Some people just use their kids emotions to play against the other person. Sick and should not be done. Suggest to your husband about counseling. Could be good for all of you. Good Luck.
2007-03-22 03:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you think maybe his mother has anything to do with it? it sounds like things were great between the two of you going out on weekends until his mother started picking him up. try and sit down and talk with him and ask him what is bothering him. maybe try and talk to him without his father around first. if that doesnt work sit down with the father and talk with him and see if he is will to talk with him and find out what is wrong. try having the 3 of you sit and talk and let them know that it is not ok for him to treat you that way and find out if his mother has anything to do with it or if he is jealous of the new baby. does this behavior worsen after he sees his mother? how do the 2 of you get along?
2007-03-22 04:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by mom of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋