Ahh, I am so amd at my friend Jackie. She is having a party and she didnt invite me even though all three parties I was going to have I was going to invite her to. Than she says she is frustrated and upset with me that I dont understand her well why should I listen to her when she doesnt even have the decency to tell me to my face that I am not invited but I hear from my good friend she was having a party. I am so mad. She gets mad that I have so many boyfriends I really think she is jelous of me. Just because all my guy friends are throwing me a party you dont have to be mad. I dont know what to do about her any more. My mom and dad dont want me to hang out with her because they can see the real her behind all her fakness. What should I do
2007-03-22 03:17:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not inviting you to her party is not stabbing you in the back. Telling a secret or stealing your boyfriend would be stabbing you in the back.
First of all, how long have you known Jackie? How often do the two of you hang in a day or week. Do the two of you sit down and tell each other your deepest secrets such as what you want in life, how you want to be treated by others?
Sounds to me she is a tad jealous in that you are popular and she takes the back seat to attention when you are around. Instead of feeling like she back stabbed you try putting yourself in her shoes. Why? For one, you have your own self respect and if the friendship ends, you know that you can hold your head up high because you acted maturely and honorably. Two, you might see that Jackie wants to be just like you which is a sincerest form of flattery. Maybe there are things going on in Jackies life that she cannot tell you about or that she is ashamed of.
Instead of being mad at her, why not offer to help her plan the perfect party so she can earn her own way into the popular crowd. It won't hurt you not to go to a party especially if you are as popular as you state.
As far as your parents not wanting you to hang out with her, sit down and talk to them to find out why. Don't assume. Sometimes parents know more than we think they do and can be a big help. Sometimes too parents can be judgemental of others not knowing the whole story so I would talk with my parents about Jackie.
Good Luck
2007-03-22 03:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Climb down off your pedestal and start being real. Quit tooting your own horn and get grounded.
Quit bragging about all your guy friends.
Is it a wonder you have more guy friends than girls??
Take a look at how you handle yourself in mixed company.
If you are a flirtatious type, and put yourself before your girlfriends, then you must realize not everyone can handle this.
You have to be a very confident and grounded person around another girl with this type of behaviour.
Maybe your friend feels intimidated, maybe you should cool your jets a bit .
If you are constantly aggressive , gf will be far and few in between, more acquaintances than anything else...
They have a sense of not being able to trust you.. Is this the image you are wanting to portray.
men will come and go in your life, but true female friends will last a life time.
maybe you should look at your over all behaviour.
I wouldn't worry about the party, if you have lots of other social events on your calendar.
she is just preventing you from capitalizing on all the guys she might be interested in.
If you talk the talk you walk the walk girl.
Don't expect other girls to accept you and feel comfortable around you.
Sounds like you like the guys more anyway... So there you have it, a different perspective on your little problem here.
read between the lines, maybe you will get what I am trying to say......
2007-03-22 10:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you already know what you must do and you want us to back u up. You know that she isnt a real friend so why the hassle? Your parents are doing you a favor! End all contact with her and if she asks why just blame it on your parents!Move on!
2007-03-22 10:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is acting like that then shes not a true friend tell her to kiss ur butt and get new friends you dont need a fake friend
2007-03-22 10:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by lisa r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not your friend. Go with your parents instincts. They are older and more experienced. Get a better friend
2007-03-22 10:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by megan261980 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk to her anymore, that's very wrong for her not to invite you. What is her motive for not inviting you anyway?
2007-03-22 10:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by g-na 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend is a friend, a person who is not does not deserve to be called one....why did you?
2007-03-22 10:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents. Surprisingly, they know a lot more than you think.
2007-03-22 10:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about her and make new friends.
2007-03-22 10:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by lizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay
2007-03-22 10:28:35 · answer #10 · answered by Stacy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋