I met my new friend (we'll call her Jane) in September of 2006 when she was hired to work at my company. After the first couple of months we became really close. I now consider her to be one of my very best friends. I got engaged and started planning my wedding about 4 months before I met her. My wedding is in June (2 months away) and I really would like to ask her to be in my wedding. Adding her to the wedding party would affect things like having to order an extra bouquet, etc. Do you think I should ask her?
2007-03-22 03:17:01 · 19 answers · asked by lisamarie1206 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Do it! If she is someone who means something to you then why not?
2007-03-22 03:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by Suki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Jane" has just started working, she may not be in a position to spend a bunch of money on a bridesmaid dress and all the other expenses incurred by participating in a wedding.
You can tell her that you have already made plans before you became such good friends, but you would really like for her to attend your wedding.
That way you are not putting pressure on her to do something she may not want to do or can hardly afford to do.
but it is your wedding and you can do whatever you want. Congratulations to you and your future husband.
2007-03-22 10:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by Fordman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no. Sometimes it takes time to really get to know someone. What if it turns out that Jane is not as good as friends as you believe her to be. If she is a bridesmaid, you will be reminded of that everytime you look at your wedding pictures. However, if she remains a good friend, she will understand that the plans were already in motion when you and she became friends. Hope you have a lovely day!!
2007-03-22 10:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by I_hope_I_know 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her that you care alot about her and that you wish you would have met her before you started planning the wedding because you would have loved to have her stand up with you. If I were your friend, I would at least want to hear that from you, so I knew you at least thought of me.
Now if adding another person is worth the trouble, then do it. But if you decide it's just to hard to do, I can bet, being as good of a friend as she is.... I think she would understand.
Good luck and congrats.
2007-03-22 10:28:11 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is your "very best friend" then why shouldn't she be your bridesmaid regardless of how much time you have known her? It Obviously sounds like that is the issue and not the bind of having to order an extra bouquet. I am sure she would be thrilled.
2007-03-22 10:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think she will be hurt if you don't ask her since your real close? You have to take her feelings into consideration, if you value her friendship then the extra money should not be a factor. If it is, then I don't think you really are her friend.
2007-03-22 10:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with asking her, as long as you're sure that you've got plenty of time to make all the adjustments to the wedding plans to include her. but don't bend over backwards trying to squeeze her in if it's going to be a big hassle, it's not worth all that trouble.
2007-03-22 10:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's pretty short notice and it would affect your whole wedding so i would say no but it's your wedding and if you're willing to deal with the changes go for it
2007-03-22 10:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would allow your heart and mind decide this for you. I mean, is this lady a valid part of your life? Do you envision her remaining in your life for the long haul? How you envision things is how they are likely to become...allow your heart and mind to guide you.
2007-03-22 10:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by Proud Daddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with the florist and whoever made your dresses, if they can accommodate her and you can afford to add her in then why not?
2007-03-22 12:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not?? She is a good friend. Isn't she? Enjoy your
wedding. Congrats!!!
2007-03-22 10:20:24 · answer #11 · answered by lizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋