Why do women loose interest in lovemaking?

Question

It seems like nearly every relationship I have been in, the woman seems to be content with not having sex after 6 months or so. Do they just get comfortable and assume when they finally get a guy to stick around for awhile they start taking thing for granted and loose interest in part of their relationship? Why can't they understand that being physical is a very important part of a relationship for a guy and we shouldn't be chastised and accused of "just wanting sex all the time"? The ladies seem to be interested, too...for a little while.

And yes...I do get kinky when the time is right (body paint, ropes, spanking, feathers, you name it, I've done it) AND I'm faithful to the one I'm with.

And different positions, different places, and we do go out JUST to go out...eating, movies, dancing, clubbing, etc...

We used to sex 3 to 5 times a day and now it's just 4 or 5 times a WEEK!

Answer 1

If there is not a physical reason, then she is bored. Not necessarily with you but with lovemaking. Be unpredictable...have her sit in front of you as you watch TV and massage her shoulders...won't she be surprised! Next time she bathes, ask to wash her back. My favorite (and I am 61 years old) is to have my boyfriend brush out my hair. Anything that is new or different, (even if you've done it in the past) is exciting and a turn on in most cases. If none of this works, make certain it is not a physical problem; anemia, hormonal imbalances, etc., can all make anyone lose interest in the act. This does NOT mean she is losing interest in you, so just try harder. Good luck and God bless

Answer 2

What's missing here, is what happens to you after 6 months or so. Maybe you are taking the woman for granted, or she perceives thing have changed.
It could be a hundred little things you haven't even noticed. A good morning kiss, help with mundane things that as a couple you shared the work. Then thanked as she did your part, next thing you know you're asking :why is this not done" I am sorry as I really do not know the particular situations that arise with you so I pointed out general examples.
Remember when two people meet they are both showing the best side of themselves and it does take a little time to know the real person, flaws and pearls included. Mostly relationships have to be worked on. Communication,feeling of both taken serious, not dismissed and an over all respect and trust in each other. This must be maintained and tweaked now and then. If you feel you did not change at all in 6 months and were still the wonderful guy she wanted to have sex with at first. I sincerely apologize...Mary

Answer 3

Have you tried asking the women if they have really lost interest and if there is something that you could do to re-stimulate their interest? When you engage in intimate activity, does it follow a routine? Is it only in certain places at certain times. For many, repetitive activity can become uninteresting after some time.

Another thing to consider is whether or not you and your partner are "in love." Sex with a new partner can be very exciting, but the physical element fades pretty quickly unless the connection you share is also emotional and mental. I would initiate conversation by asking nonthreatening questions such as: "Honey, does it seem to you like we aren't making love as much as we used to?" If she agrees with you, then ask if there is something that you have or haven't done that contributed to the decrease, and continue to explore the issue in a very non-accusatory and nonthreatening manner.

If she doesn't agree that you are engaging less frequently, then you may consider saying something along the lines of, "Wow, I must just really be missing you or something because it seems like we haven't made love recently as much as we used to. What do you think? Should I keep a record?"

Bottom line is that you want to get some conversation about this going without making it seem like she has done something wrong (since she hasn't) or that it is the end of the world. You want to make sure that she knows you believe you can work this out together. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Sex is important in a relationship, but it is not the be all and end all. Perhaps after 6 months of doing the same thing, the ladies in question start to get a little bored of your routine?
If all you are doing is having sex, then it probably is a bit dull. Make sure you do other stuff like going out, having friends over etc, sex should be part of a relationship, not the whole of it.

Answer 5

I can only answer for my self, I only became disinterested in sex with my ex of 25yrs after all the emotional and physical abuse. He would complain all the time that he didn't get it enough. Well for 20 years he would get it any where from three to seven days a week, some of those days where all day sex fests. But he still complained, so I marked a calender without his knowing and when I couldn't take the complaining any longer I showed him the calender. He averaged only four days a month without sex. Hello, can you say a lucky man who took his sex loving wife for granted!!!!!!
I to loved to get kinky and granted his every wish even if it was just once.
So I would have to say good luck in finding a woman with your same sex drive. We are out there you just have to find us.

Answer 6

Honestly - she's bored and not just with the sex. I'm speaking from experience b/c I was the girl who lost interest (in multiple relationships). People will always tell you to try to spice it up in the bedroom, but you need to start in other areas b/c chances are she doesn't even want to try the "spicy bedroom stuff" b/c she isn't interested in sex right now. I suggest doing something out of the ordinary to surprise her and make her feel special and don't make it seem as though you want sex for doing it. It's really the simple little things that can make her feel special and sexy which will in turn (hopefully) make her more interested in being physical.

Answer 7

How's this for a revelation.

If the sex is the same after 6 months as it was after 6 days, she's going to lose interest.

6 months is more than ample time to learn about your partner's needs, and about her body, and to apply that to what you do in bed.

Chances are you're not doing this, and your girl(s) aren't particularly satisfied or interested. If you weren't enjoying the sex, would you keep doing it for her sake?

Also... and here's another bold revelation... try talking to your partner. Find out what's on her mind. Everybody has fantasies, some have certain kinks and fetishes, and if you care about your partner, you should at least attempt to cater to these things.

Be a better lover and she'll be a more interested one.

Answer 8

Sex is important to women as well! We just don't make it our #1 priority. New relationships always start out with a couple having sex all the time. It's new, exciting, and showing they care for one another. After the same thing over and over, a woman needs some variety. We like to be romanced, we like foreplay, and we like to be swept off our feet. If your routine is the same all the time and you complain to her about not wanting it, sex tends to feel like a chore instead.

Answer 9

you're conscious there's a difficulty with you. Now, its a might desire to to repair you. at the start, have a heart to heart which includes your husband. clarify to him what you have written to us. next, call your loved ones surgeon. talk with him regarding the discomfort you're experiencing and permit him understand regarding the psychological themes. you have the two suppressed something on your strategies and once you get to a definite point on your intimacy, your strategies is triggering back to that venture. or you're affected by a considerable guilt complicated. i'm specific your husband loves you very plenty. this is the reason you may desire to be uncomplicated with him, so as that he will comprehend what is going on and does not take it workers. i'm stunned he hasn't asked you approximately this already. Your husband and you have not had themes approximately one or the different cheating, have you ever? Regardless, of the placement, you want help and help. The discomfort you're experiencing, might additionally be physiological, an excuse to end intercourse interior the middle. Its not uncommon for couples to have intimacy issues at cases. save faith that this is fastened, yet you could not do it on my own. you will fill a huge alleviation once you confide on your husband what's occurring to you. with a bit of luck, it want take long to attempt by contrast problem and get on which includes your existence, bodily, mentally, and sexually.

Answer 10

maybe it's your technique. Try not having sex all the time in the beginning of the relationship. Focus on other aspects of the relationship, like getting to know each other, spending time together. Have common interests? Involve yourselves in doing things together to spend quality time. Limit yourself to frequent sex. Then when you do have sex, make it a blast. Live as passionate as you Love