I'm a male 23 with a problem concerning God's will for my life. This past summer my church statred a young adults group which holds a Bible study on Sunday nights . We studied the book of Philippians where I felt the right hand of God moving my heart to serve within Central Asia (where I happen to have several friends serving already). My one frined Dinara (from Kyrgyzstan) who is incharge of a summer camp asked if I would be willing to help out with that which would be a good starting point in determaning whether or not God is truly is calling me there. There is 1 problem though, I currently work at my families business and my mom doesn't support or accept such a trip as she claims that would hurt my family (though she is the only one making a big deal out of this) and that the business needs me more. I want to reasure God's calling and the summer camp would be just that, but what should I do about my mom? I don't want to hurt her but I want to fallow Christ whever he may lead me.
2007-03-22 03:00:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
By the way, I'm the youngest in the family and my mom is just way to over protective of me as she's afraid to let me go.
2007-03-22 03:02:41 · update #1
Just a side note to what jiloth7 mention, I've talked to one of my great friends who happens to be the leader (it's part of his job at a local Methodist church) of a Tuesday night Bible study I attend and he said that my mom seems afraid to let me go and that it comes with being the youngest. He also mentioned that possibly part of the problem may be that she's going into this with a negative attitue and mind pre-set that even if she is praying for this as she claims, she's possibly unable to adiqutly hear God.
2007-03-22 05:17:33 · update #2
Mom's are always not wanting to allow their children to leave the nest. It is an inbred trait of all loving Mothers that they want to protect their children.
You are not a child anymore though, and unless you are truly crucial to the operation of the family business you should do what you feel in your heart is what God is calling you to.
The suggestion that you go to Central Asia to help out is a great one. It won't take long for you to find out if God wants you there and will at the same time give you experience you need if you feel called to the ministry.
Your Mother may still try to stop you, but she will just have to understand that she cannot live your life for you. One way to get a good gauge as to what to do beside posting here is to talk with your pastor, youth group leader and other members of your church who you think are mature enough to give you sound advice, and see what they have to say. Weigh all the things people say, and then do what the Lord tells you.
Personally, if God moved your heart that way I would have to believe that He wants you there unless your motivation is not right. For example, if you motivation is to be there because a friend or girlfriend is there or some other reason other than the heart felt desire God gave you.
When my wife and I were getting ready to be married her Mom told her that if we didn't get married in her home state she would not attend the wedding. We told her Mom that we felt that most of our friends were in my home state because we were in Bible college at the time preparing for ministry. We told her we would have the wedding in my home state whether she came or not.
The threat, if you want to call it that, of not coming was a play to get her way, but we stood our ground and she came to the wedding anyway. Not only that, her mom and dad took the wedding party out for a pre-wedding dinner and provided all the meat and more for the reception.
Stand your ground. Your mom may be doing the same thing, but you must obey God rather than anyone else - even your Mom if she is getting in the way of God's will for your life.
God bless you as you seek to honor and glorify Him with your life!
2007-03-22 03:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
God wants you to honor your mother and father, yet there comes a day when you must leave father and mother. Here is a way to confirm God's leading. If God is truly calling you to the mission field, ask Him to open the doors there, and start closing the doors at the business. By closing the door, I do not mean the business suffering, I mean that someone comes along that can replace you or the parents start thinking twice and allowing you to go. Things such as that. Ask the Lord to intervene on your behalf. Give Him time to work. This does not have to happen right away.
2007-03-22 03:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Pray pray and pray! The Lord will give you answers. If your answer is to go, talk with your family and see what you can do to make the transition easier for them. Maybe training someone to fill in for you while you are gone. Communication is the key for you and your family, all of you know the situation you face and God knows the plans he has for you.
2007-03-23 14:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be GOD is testing you like he tested abraham through his only son isaac,the only thing you've got to do is to pray and fast ,this will able GOD to move by seeing that you really want to serve him really not only because you've got friends there already,abouve all be patient with your mum.if after having pray to GOD you find your mum still on her position it doesn't mean that GOD don't want you to serve him there it's just maybe its not the time yet for you to go there.GOD is a good planner he does everything in time.he always answers to all our question ,even though the answer takes time it will surely arive.don't go somewhere without GOD instruction ,you'll get hurt and dissapointed.we all need to be trained for thing we will do for the future because for serving GOD we need specific strategies and it all comes from him.be patient let him prepare you and you'll be amaze of all the good thing he reserved for you as equipment to serve him.GOD bless you.
2007-03-26 23:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God has called each and everyone of us to spread his word and the truth. We can all do our part to keep God and the Gospel of his Word alive in the whole world today. Your decision is to decide where you can help spread the good news the best and where it is needed. There are many right here in the USA who need taught too. Just remember the Holy Bible is the ONLY authorizatin we have. If it is not in the word of God then it is false teaching. Ephesians 4:13,14 Galatians 1:8
2007-03-22 03:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your response to God will always be more imporatant than your response to your mother. IF it is really God calling you out there.
If you value the relationship that you might have with Dinara, and THAT is pulling you out there, then the question of where your loyalties lie is present. Perhaps ther would be a conflict of interest.
Either way, you have to trust God.
2007-03-22 03:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need some time and prayer with God. Ask God if it is His will for you to go to the summer camp to let his will be done. You ask God to show you his will and to make a way for his will to happen and within his timing it will all work out. I would pray for your mother, that if it is God's will for you to go to summer camp that she recieves peace and understanding for the situation. PRAY. God will show you what he wants or needs you to do and if he wants you to go to summer camp than he will make it work out and it will happen according to the will he has for your life. Even with your mother. Pray and fast over this and wait patiently on God to show you what he wants for you.
2007-03-22 03:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by busyliz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are certain that it's God will then obey. If you are not certain, pray about it and fast.
If you are convinced God is sending you, you have to do it.
"Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me"
Matthew 10:37
Also,
"And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or fields for my sake will receive a hundred times as much and will inherit eternal life."
Matthew 19:29
2007-03-22 03:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by Gui 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Stay home, work in the family business and leave those people over there alone. It's wrong for people to go over there and force people into excepting Christ in order to get the education, medical help and food they need. Missionaries have no conscious.
2007-03-22 03:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by nuthnbettr2do0128 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You must follow where you feel God's leading you. Pray that God will give your Mom the spirit of understanding.
Yes, us Moms are protective especially of our youngest but, in the end, we come to understand that we've got to let go and let God.
2007-03-22 03:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋