I'm not planning on having a kid for a few more years, when my husband and I are more financialy stable. But when I look at the big picture, are people ever really ready to have children? It just seems as if even when I graduate school and become an RN, and we're bringing home enough money between the two of us...it still just doesnt seem like enough money to raise a family-is that possible? Do people somehow find a way to make things work?
2007-03-22 02:55:49 · 19 answers · asked by paha4u 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
there are always ways to make it work. people do it everyday! if you wait until your financially ready, it wont ever happen. something will always come up. its the way life works. im expecting my first baby in november, and i am soooooo excited about it. are we fully financially ready? probably not. am i scared to death? yes. but its what is right in our lives right now. we are married, have stable jobs, and live in a nice area. sure we dont own our house, but we are happy where we are at and have no problem raising a family in a rented house. you just need to make sacrifices. when you bring a life into this world, its not all about you anymore. you have to think of the needs and wants of that child. you just make it work.
2007-03-22 03:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, You can never be truely ready or prepared.. every pregnancy, birth, and child are different! So you have only an idea of it. You can be ready money wise and have everything you need... but read as many books as you want, talk to as many people/doctors as you want but you will NEVER be 100% ready.
It is a big choice to make if you are yet to get pregnant and are going to try.
Mine was a surprise, so I was really thrown into it and HAD to be as ready as I could be... it all turned out good! and I never thought that I would be 24 married and have a 3 year old!
The best thing you can do is decide... don't wait until you are ready because it doesn't happen and you will keep putting it off!
2007-03-22 04:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ PrincessLeia ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe the problem is that we never seem to think we have enough money. :) Think of it this way, you will probably have excellent insurance when you become an RN and a baby carries a tax break. Plenty of people raise stable and responsible kids on a lot less than what you'll be making. What babies need most is loving parents. Being responsible for another human is frightening, but if its what you and your husband want, then there's no reason you shouldn't have kids. Like my Italian grandmother says "You can always add more water to the soup." :) :)
2007-03-22 03:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by mamasonny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope! Never ready :) My husband and I had a baby totally by accident, best thing in the world, but not planned. He and I were just graduating college. We were soooo not ready! We made the best of it, but yea... no money no house, not married at the time. Then when my first son was 5 we started trying for another baby. This time we had the jobs, the house, the marriage, the money... it took over a year to get pregnant. Then 9 months of being pregnant... my husband lost his job, i went on mat leave and guess what... we're broke again ! LOL. We were ready when we started, but now... not so much. Things change.
2007-03-22 03:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by Gig 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, there isn't really ever an "optimal" time to have kids, but it is a good thing to think about where you are in life and decide if this is good enough to really start thinking about kids. For example, If you aren't in a stable relationship, then it's probably not a good idea to have kids unless you are ready to do that on your own. Or if you are in school, it probably better to wait until you graduate. but waiting until you have a 6 figure salary and big house is not necessary.
2007-03-22 03:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by chicchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're never really ready for it even if you have all the money in the world it takes more then money to raise babies. Babies take time and energy to raise. My husband and I have a 3 year old and an 11 month old. Money is tight sometimes but we manage somehow and I think most people do if they prioritize and budget.
2007-03-22 02:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen no one is ready for a baby but when you delivery; when you see that face all you do is cry and cry. Make sure that you thank God you had that baby and that there is no problems with it ( ie, autism, brain damage and many more) note: that you will still love your child even if they do have autism or brain damage. Money not a prob all I can say is 1. pray to God he will always find a way to work it out. 2. Look at your potential and find a job that suits you. 3. Make your own business (look at your talents and see what you can do to sell make or whatever). That's all I can say, hoped I helped it was joy responding to your question.
Love,
Hopeful Angel
(Wishing you well!)
2007-03-22 03:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Hopeful-Angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, they say you should start trying when you're 75%, since you'll never be ready :-D.
Kids, although costly, are huge tax breaks. You'll find yourself with less time to spend money on certain things that you may be doing/buying now, so that saves quite a bit as well. I suggest having debt cleared (except for house), but that proves difficult to people.
2007-03-22 03:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by Rob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, people are never really ready for kids. My husband made $30,000 a year when we had our first child. We made it work. We've even managed to get me back in school this year. Good luck when you do decide to have a baby. Good luck on your degree too.
2007-03-22 02:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one is ever really ready to take care of another human. It's a whole new experience. You never know what life will throw at you. Good luck! You'll do fine!
2007-03-22 03:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋