Heres the question..
From all the cheaters...the shallow..the dating for "fun" people..
the players..the ego divas...the divorce rate...the growing singles in this country...
How would you tell another person that Love is worth it?
Keep in mind this person has heard it all before...
"Ah you will find someone"
"Have faith he or she will come to you"
"When your ready she or he will come to you"
In fact hearing all these promising remarks is what he or she drove her or him to have no respect for love at all...
Now imagine this person is sitting in front of you girl or guy..
and this person has been looking and not looking for a good amount of time...try 15 years ...he or she askes you why should I even continue? You are her or his Last hope before he or she gives up for the rest of her or his life.
How can you convine a person of something that's good if he or she has never know the good of it?
Good luck...
2007-03-22 02:54:56 · 14 answers · asked by Lone Knight 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here ya go to make it simple..:)
Why should somone believe in love when all they have know is pain?
Why when they should have faith and wait when they know that people have died wait for something that never came? I have heard of so many horror stories of love that I could write a novel....Love could be the greatest thing that happens to you or it could be the very thing that even takes your life....
2007-03-22 08:26:14 · update #1
I would tell the person my true story. That I had a suicide note written and put away for the night after I came from work to kill myself. I got dressed and went to work on the bus like any normal person and hid how I really felt with a smile. I got bored and just wanted to test and see if I actually already vanished off the face of the earth or if someone would see me...so I logged into a yahoo chat room.At the end of the day, 2 hours before I left I decided to leave a message on the board and had no response...... and just as I was about to log off I got an IM. From one person, and that was all I needed to make me not end it all. We got to know each other and stayed in touch. Him in USA me in south Africa. we thought the odds were against us. Then last year we got married after dating online over a year. Yes my story sounds cliched and yes it sounds like every other line of " love will find you" but my point is this, theres hope for love for even the souls that think they are lost and have no reason to live, love can find even the most empty of a shell of a person and fill them so how much more wont it fill and find you? We limit ourselves from love for fear of being hurt but when we have nothing left and lie wounded thats when love can heal.Theres nobody who knows this better than me. I was convinced the day love found me that it was the end of my life, but I was wrong.... it was the start of who I am. Never give up on love.... its as real as the air you breathe.
2007-03-22 03:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you explain the necessity of breathing? Of replenishing your body with nourishment and water? As long as you continue to do those two things you will be ALIVE. Why worry about explaining all the virtues of being "in love"? We've heard all of the cliches before, "Better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all" says everything you need to know. No matter how much pain comes from losing at love, the love gave strength, wisdom, comfort, and everything that we humans think we need in order to love or feel loved. I am 53, had a 22 yr marriage to a cheater, a 3 yr marriage to a loser, have had 1 on and off relationship for 5 yrs to another cheater and a 4 year relationship that ended over a yr ago with a closet alcoholic. Was it all worth it? I wouldn't change a thing because I learned so much from each and every one of those men. Will I continue looking for love? Absolutely. Will my world end if I die alone? Absolutely not because I am happy, I have a life, I have friends, family, 4 beautiful kids and 5 wonderful grandbabies. There is more to life than being in love. Granted, it is much nicer to have someone to share the special times with, but it isn't a necessity. You won't stop breathing if you aren't in love, you won't stop appreciating the sunshine, nor the rain. So I guess in short my advice is not to give any advice to your friend. Let him or her find the path they are meant to walk, be it alone or with fingers intertwined with a loved one.
2007-03-22 03:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by nancy w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The experience is worth it all. That is what love and life itself is about. Pleasure, pain, love, hate even fear. It's all about living and experiencing everything. That is why we are mortal. Everything is better when you know it will end someday. Think of that person again. At some point before they felt the pain of a failed relationship, wasn't it great? For that alone, it is worth doing a thousand times over.
2007-03-22 03:03:48 · answer #3 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the unique infatuation and the 1st emotions of affection look to constantly make human beings chuffed in the event that they are decrease back. yet, interior the long-term LOVE can not make you chuffed. Happiness comes from interior. No relationship can in all possibility be suited each and all the time. the ultimate happiness that could come from love is making the partnership artwork! Feeling which you have a spouse for all times and somebody who's there for you no rely what could make you experience greater advantageous than chuffed. regrettably...a great number of human beings have had that feeling and it has led to divorce. you are going to be chuffed interior your self to even MAKE love artwork. *sigh* it truly is all so complicated. yet i might under no circumstances say that love is a definite reason at the back of grief.
2016-12-19 11:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what? I'd let them give up on it. It might not be their thing. I've known quite a few people that say they are giving up on love. Some of them "come out of retirement" when the time is right. Just because someone says they are giving up doesn't make it true or mean forever.
2007-03-22 03:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Reading this made me think of a boyfriend I had about two years ago. It was one of those things you know, our parents were good friends, and we were dating for about 8 months. I truly felt that I ♥ him! It was over the summer when I had not got to talk to him for a while, because he was on vacation. I started chatting with a friend of mine. He thought I was taken. And when he asked if I would date him I was like YES! I called my BF and ended it. The other boy dumped me the next day. So I called now Ex-Bf and we worked things out. Our relationship was really rocky after that, cause he didn't trust me. He had ended it with us at school one day. I cried my eyes out, once he saw how devastated I was he walked up to me and held me tight in his arms.
We have been together since. It just took all that to realize how much we love each other.
I do believe in love at first sight!
**GOODLUCK**
**GODBLESS**
2007-03-22 03:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by °♥BeautyQueen1192♥° 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL I don't know how to answer this. I am not a cheater. But I doubt you'll get any honest answers from a cheater! LOL
2007-03-22 03:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't....you always have to open for love to come...you have to be open for the pain, if you expect to experience the joy....
2007-03-22 02:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by onekoolkat_31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
interesting....it's too early for me to make sense of this but it sounds good. give yoru brain a break though dude
2007-03-22 03:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by forget_me_not 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is quite a confusing question.
Bottom line, if you never had it you can't miss it.
2007-03-22 02:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋