Crazy, but after dating MANY girls who (it turns out) were never commited, I found someone who is. Or she found me rather. Now after 2 years she wants to be married. I never felt the chemistry, the conversation is almost painful, and I look forward to time alone. She has great relationship values - strong commitment and good morales/ work ethic being the thing I was looking for. We have some things in common but I seldom have any fun when we share them. I feel I am too old to start over. And every girl I ever loved walked away with no forewarning and little reason. Should I just be alone? I feel like I am acting out the part of my previous ex-girlfriends.
2007-03-22 02:52:41 · 7 answers · asked by waitingtoinhale 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...you already said why you shouldn't marry this girl here my friend. Who wants to be in a marriage that has no chemistry and is almost painfully miserable for you otherwise? You answered your own question here dude. Don't marry anyone you're not assuredly in LOVE with anyways! How silly this stuff would actually turn out for both of you two here seriously. Let go of this untrue relationship right now...and explain why you're leaving her... to her face truthfully. She'd rather have the real truth then be married and then lied to partner. Lies hurt much more then any truthful words in my book anyways. She'll eventually recover from you shortly my friend....but you won't if you marry into a LIE with her unfortunately. You're a smart dude here...aren't you? You now know what you need to do for the good of everyone here that's concerned. Get busy dude...I hear your clock of fate ticking otherwise!
2007-03-22 03:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should never marry if you are having any kind of doubts. The worst thing to do is to get into a marriage for the wrong reasons. Maybe you just haven't found your true love yet. What makes you think you are too old to start over? I don't think you are ever too old to start over.
2007-03-22 03:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by eeyore9939 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point of marriage is to be with someone you can't live without, who completes you and who you love unconditionally. If you don't enjoy your time with this woman, then no, you shouldn't marry her. Don't settle, and don't make this woman think you care for her and want to be with her forever if you're unsure. Don't waste her time or yours. There's no such thing as "too old to start over." As long as you're alive, you can start again.
2007-03-22 03:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do something you don't want to do! It sounds like you have not fully gotton yourself together in order to fully give yourself to someone else, so don't do it, but also you need to communicate this to her so she can move on. If you do not want to marry her you need to let her move on since marriage is what she wants and you're not ready to give her that. Which is ok, work on you and get yourself together. Don't compromise your feelings for someone else's you will not be happy and that's the most important thing is your happiness not someone else's.
2007-03-22 03:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by GoodGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then you know what the answer is. Have the balls to set her free to fulfill her dream.
2007-03-22 02:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel and reconsider marrying her after a few months....
2007-03-22 02:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by marshimaro1993 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noone should be alone but if you have problems contact me at sirtermite1912@yahoo.com or join my group at loversneedinghelp@yahoo.groups.com
2007-03-22 02:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋