Basically if you skim read my previous 2 questions you will get whats happening but in short I went on this date on tuesday &it went well with her it was nice &we talked a lot &were fairly at ease there wasnt any silence so it was ok but when we got back to her place she said we should do this again sometime I said yeah we snogged for the 2nd time that night and I said me call you or you call me she said lets wait and see what happens.
I gave space y.day by not calling her, wanted2 bt didnt want to seem posessive so I rang her today she told me she was working 6am till 2pm today so I rang her at 10am (2pm now) guessing she may have a break and left a voicemail saying hi &thanks for tuesday you looked great, ur a lovely person love to see you again soon&told her when Im free&2 call or sms bck
how long should I give it before I should begin to believe she is giving me the cold shoulder¬ just playing hard to get?
asking cos my last relationship was an LDR & Ive 4gotten the rules!
2007-03-22 02:52:21 · 15 answers · asked by Music fan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well I think you should leave it as is now - you've left her a message so the ball is in her court to get back to you.
If she doesnt - then I wouldnt bother wasting your time contacting her again.
Id love to be left a voicemail like that - as would tonnes of other girls - if she cant see that you're a really decent bloke then thats her problem - plenty more out there hun!
xx
2007-03-22 03:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm female.
If I had gone on a date with a someone I fancied I would be checking my phone every chance i got to see if they called. But that doesn't mean I would call them back immediately. I might even let them wait a bit - cos I wouldn't want to seem too keen.
You also hve to allow for the 'stuff' in people's lives - maybe she's not allowed to make or take personal calls at work. Then she'll have to get home, maybe do a bit of shopping on the way. She might want a bath after being up all that time and then there is dinner to think about, maybe other people around that she doesn't want to overhear her conversations with you.
I would give her until at least the weekend to get in touch.
2007-03-22 03:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically you should at least give her another day. If she is working until 2pm today and has been on her feet since approximately 6am, she may not have the energy to call or text you today. If she is playing games and doesn't text you, I would forget about it. People who play games are so not worth the hassle and you can find someone equally as nice and fun without all the BS. Good Luck
2007-03-22 02:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by Ria K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a woman and from my point of view its always hard to tell cause all women are different. You should give her a few days cos she seems to work shifts so maybe time isnt on her side and she has alot to deal with. It aint easy being a woman dating aswell cos you dont want to seem to eager and let the man think that your a bunny boiler!!
Just give her time and if she feels the date went aswel as youve said it has and she likes you she will call you.
2007-03-22 03:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be busy at work and didn't even have time to check her voice mail. It's happened to me. I haven't been able to check mine till the next day. Don't worry yet. Give her another day or so. If you don't hear, try a call at home this weekend, see if she has plans.
I know if I'm not interested in a second date, I wouldn't suggest doing it again sometime. I think she may have been unsure about herself and just was thinking she'd see if you'd call at all before agreeing to call you. Give her a little time. She's more likely to respond from home than at work.
2007-03-22 03:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am a married woman [you did ask], I think you should give her time to retrieve the message, she may be busy. Secondly she may be trying hard to get and making you sweat a bit, [but we ar'nt all like that]. If she has'nt got back to you tomorrow then try again and see what happens then.
if you keep on sending her texts she may well get fed up and think you are pestering her. She will get back to your'e messages in her own time, then again if you are lucky to be able to speak to her, see what happens then. People have voice mail on for a reason, she might not be able to get to the phone. If you don't succeed for the weekend, I'd give up.
Good Luck and hope you enjoy your next date.
2007-03-22 03:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jeanette 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she hasnt contacted you by tomorrow thenjust forget it. You have done all you can, if you try anymore she may get scared off. Let her do the running now. If she hasnt contacted you in a few weeks then you should realise that she isnt interested really.
Good Luck!
2007-03-22 04:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop worrying. you sound like a head case its only 20 past 2. she will most likely call you in a few hours. calm down. distract yourself and the phone call will soon come. Good Luck!!.
2007-03-22 03:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a female lol
it depends different girls play it differently! I'd wait for her to get back to you and of she doesn't by tomorrow i'd just get on with it - if u dn't hang around like a puppy dog - her games won't work for her and then you can find out if she really likes you!
2007-03-22 03:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by dollymixture 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally from a woman's point of view, i would perhaps contact her again at the weekend if she hasn't contacted you by then, and then if you don't meet or if she doesn't contact you I would not contact her after that, as it makes you look like you're chasing her, and there's nothing worse!
2007-03-22 02:59:16 · answer #10 · answered by julieh88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋