Well i went out with a lady on thursday evening and we seemed to get on really well after i had dropped her home i text her to thank her for a nice evening and to say i would really like to see her again so we arranged for this sunday no time just arranged the day. I e-mailed her this morning to ask if we were still on for sunday and it would appear she forgot about it. I really like this lady and i sent her a follow up e-mail just telling her that i really like her and would like to see her more. Was this a good idea or bad? she hasn't replied as yet!
2007-03-22 02:48:28 · 29 answers · asked by Boney 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Might have been too soon... you could have weirded her out
2007-03-22 02:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by April 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're coming on to strong, how many follow ups do you need. If you were the one that suggested the second date, especially since there was no specific time that was put on it, you should have let her be the one to call to make sure you were still on. You might have scared her away with your "follow ups." Follow ups can easily turn to bugging. If you're pretty sure it was a great date send her some flowers letting her know you had fun and don't mention when you will see her again. Allow her be the one that's eager to see you.
2007-03-22 10:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kimara D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The follow up e-mail might have been a bit heavy for someone you had only been on 1 date with.
If a girl is really interested i would be shocked if she forgot a date, but on the other hand she may be trying to play it cool???
I would give her some space for a little while she if she contacts you or not.
But just relax and don't get to heavy!
2007-03-22 09:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by sassym 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it doesn't seem like she is interested. Perhaps, she is playing hard to get, but doubtful. Second, you seem like a nice guy, one of those rare gentleman so I think you should forget this "forgetful" lady and look for someone worthy of your kindness, thoughtfulness and consideration. Tip for the future: Set a DEFINITE time for every second date, that should eliminate forgetting on the other end. Good Luck and don't let this "lady", (I use the term loosely for her as she is tacky) get you down. Keep looking and you will find a real lady soon.
2007-03-22 09:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by nancy w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Boney u must feel bad,ladies r like that,she may be playing hard to get considering the fact that u have shown u really care about her,or she has not made up her mind to go in that direction,how about this,give her time and dear next time dont show a lady u like her that much you freak her out atleast just show it,good luck,sue aka SAM
2007-03-22 09:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends... 16 and younger, if you tell a lady or girl you love her or like just after the first date u might of scared her off, u should also just relax a little. 18 and older maybe she needs to think about it and if u keep bothering her it tells alot about u and that could of also messed it up. i may be wrong. you can also try to email her or call her on friday or saturday just to see if the *day* is still on. also another problem maybe somthing happened in the family so she just couldnt talk good luck!
2007-03-22 09:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Squeaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was interested, she would have not forgot and would probably be thinking about it almost constantly since the invite.
Could be loads of things - another person in her life, getting over an ex, your just not her type, maybe she didn't forgot but had something important to do - the key is to not take it personally.
The ball is in her court now and it is up to her if she wants to return.........if she does not then do not persist. The game, set and match is over. Move onto the next one.
2007-03-22 09:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to use more direct forms of communication. Texting and Email are nice as supplemental ways to communicate, but you need to use primary forms like speaking in person or over the phone first. It's fine to use the secondary forms, but only as supplements to the primary ones.
Relationships get into problems when secondary forms of communication REPLACE rather than supplement actually talking type communication.
Given this, call her. Make a point to call her and engage in more direct communication more often. It will enhance the quality of your relationship and build a stronger bond faster.
Good luck!
2007-03-22 09:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by notasperfectasyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice that you like her so much, and your not scared to let her no how you feel, and you want to spend time with her. However you must remember you have only had one date, and althought you felt a strong connection straight away, maybe she is taking longer. It doesnt mean she doesnt like you, but now you have sent an email saying how you want to see her more she feels abit uneasy, because now she might feel like your expecting more than she is willing to give at the moment. Like i said its sweet you can express yourself in the way you have, but maybe dont come on quite so strong if you do manage to get that second date. I have my fingers crossed for you hun. x
2007-03-22 09:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by Siany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't panic maybe she is bad getting to her messages. Sometimes I go a couple days and not even log on. How about calling her. Don't listen to what the others say. No one really knows what works. Sometimes people send certain messages and reality it's not what they meant to send. Just cause she has not responded doesn't mean anything yet.
2007-03-22 09:51:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry boney but she doesnt seem that into if she forgot about meeting you on sunday, sorry. Good Luck, im sure there is a lovely girl out there waiting for you.
2007-03-22 10:31:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋