He wants the family thing but yet attitude of single man. Meaning what is his business only pertains to him resents advice or imput about his company life etc. His modo is only speak when spoken too. Verbal, mental and physical abuse have been present. He apologizes but then acts nasty later deleting the good he tried to do to make up. I want this to all work out but I feel lost unmotivated in trying to keep things going when I basically take care of everything. Help plus the fact he tells me hes going to marry me one day and the next hes not. completely confused!
2007-03-22 02:43:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I trully understand what everyone is saying but Ive been doing this for 7yrs. Stupid? probably I just hope and pray everyday that he will be better to me. He is not always bad but if I say the wrong thing or do something he doesnt like the yelling starts and if I become vocal look out. Is there no way to fix the wrong. Im not perfect and have made mistakes I trully love this man, why I dont know but my head says leave and my heart says stay
2007-03-22 02:58:05 · update #1
You need to get rid of this man.. He's a total loser... why would you want to get married to such a chauvinistic man! Get real..
It will only end in divorce and you will be stuck with the kids..
A woman needs someone who will be her equal.. and trust me you are not his equal.. you are below him cuz you let him walk all over you... WHY? Just because he apologizes doesn't make it all better.
Run!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-22 02:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I would not put up with this guy who does he think he is GOD ' s gift to women ? If he is mentally , physically and verbally abusing you then you need to tell him where to go and if needed give him the directions .
I don't know you but I do know that no one deserves to be abused I experienced it myself and I trust me it will not get better
only worse .
GET OUT OF THERE NOW !!
Take care
C
2007-03-22 09:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by Constance M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a life where you are not even a second class citizen, where verbal abuse and physical abuse are the highlights of your day and you get al kinds of STDs because your "man" is tomcatting around, then ya, stay with the guy. I think you deserve better, and I think you'd be better off living your life as far away from him as you can get.
2007-03-22 09:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by al b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems this person has some mental issues, and if there has been any type of mental or physical abuse you dont need this nor want it, it could get worse if you marry, then it goes into children you may have, think of yourself first....be happy and find someone to treat you right....
2007-03-22 10:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by Renee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run, don't walk to the nearest exit. You are NOT going to change him, and you will regret the day you said "yes" for the rest of your life, or until the divorce comes through.
There are others out there that will treat you the way you want to be treated. Why settle for less than that? Do you enjoy being stepped on?
2007-03-22 09:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by auditor4u2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some men have away of making the woman thinking it's her fault .by putting you on guilt trip.SS STOP fallen for it.he sounds very controlling.don't let him get to you mentally fight it off in your head .don't let him abuse you anymore in NO kind of way.you don't need that .Apologizes don't mean not thing when you'll feeling all ****** -up on the in and outside. let Good men find you.
2007-03-22 10:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by pancakes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want to be happy, respected and loved then I suggest you get out of that relationship ASAP!!!
Men like that don't change no matter how many times they say it or ask for forgiveness..It's up to you im sure you know whats right for you....Good Luck and be smart!!
2007-03-22 09:48:33 · answer #7 · answered by Alejandra2008 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girley,
is not going to get better, these types of relationships only get worse, and if you look at yourself, you will see how unhappy he's making you, love isnt all..and especially if he's treating you like if your his property...sometimes we like that feeling that there so in love with you, that they get jealous or whatever...but the right thing to do is just to help yourself and move on, he's going to get worser...not better....trust me, honey...just try atleast for your sake and your safety...
2007-03-22 09:58:03 · answer #8 · answered by dat_sweetmami 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not stay with a freak like that if he paid me to. You will be heading down a long hard road..I can see it coming. If you love yourself at all, you will about-face, and run like hell...
2007-03-22 09:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real loser. Dump the trash and move on.
2007-03-22 09:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie's Man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋