ive been hanging out with a girl a lot lately. and i know she has a boyfriend but he is emotionally and mentally abusive. To a certain degree at least. he degrades her and tells her she needs to lose weight, etc..
Anyway, she knows i like her and we talk a lot and we are basically best friends. but then when i go to visit her she seems to ignore me unless i am doing something for her or buying her something.
The last time i went there she spent more time talking to all sorts of people on the phone , one of them some guy out of town that likes her, and i ended up hooking up my mp3 player and listening to it because i had nothing to do.
she knew something was worng but i lied and just said i was thinking about a test i had the next day because i know she doesnt do it on purpose and i dont want to hurt her feelings because i like her a lot.
is she leading me on? i like her and i buy her lots of stuff and i think she may be taking advantage of the fact that she knows thats how i am.
2007-03-22 02:39:51 · 7 answers · asked by djacobh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BTW, she is with the abusive guy because she has been with him for four years and he is her "first". which makes it harder to break off. but he lives out of town and travels and she only sees him once every three weeks and she says that over the course of the last year it has basically hit the shitter but she just cant make herself break up with him.
apparently some answers probably find this fact important.
and according to statistics abusive relationships are harder to get out of because they are afraid of what could happen. just a minor note for those wondering why in the world she is still with him. believe me i wonder the same thing.
2007-03-22 02:58:03 · update #1
yea sounds like she is definitely taking advantage of the fact that you like her.. i would definitely back off from buying her things and then see how she acts.. if she dont talk to you then obviously you got your anwser.. but think about this, she is over there and her b/f is emotionally abusive to her but what is she doing to you?? she knows you like her and will talk to you as long as your buying her stuff, dont seem to me like she cares too much about your emotions so what type of person does that make her? almost like her and her b/f deserve each other cuz neither one cares about others emotions.
2007-03-22 02:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_cotton_candy_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she does seem to be taking of advantage of you, and by now she should know your having more than friendly feelings for her, and obviously she is already looking for someone else so doesnt seem she is too afraid to move on, sounds like she is just setting up the next one so she has someone there when she breaks up with the abusive one.... honestly you dont need all the drama move on...
2007-03-22 03:15:14 · answer #2 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Kido, there is ALWAYS the possibility that she is leading you on because she likes the gifts and favors. But, if you ask me, I think it is highly unlikely. From what you said, she is trying her best not to get too close. And that is for a couple reasons:
1) She realizes she has feelings for you, but feels guilty because she has a boyfriend.
2) She is also afraid of becoming to emotionally attached. because of what her boyfriend puts her through, she is afraid of being Hurt yet again.
So relax, and let her know that you like being her friend, and that you will always be there for her. Don't push, and don't rush. What is meant to happen happens. Just do your best to keep her safe from the jerk she is with.
2007-03-22 02:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by Linka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is rude of her to do that to you. Why do you go to her house if this is how she treats you by ignoring you? You don't do that to other people And you buy her things! Why? Do you think you can buy her love and time? You need to get away from this girl. It is not a good relationship for you; for her yes, but not for you. She is using you. Sorry.
2007-03-22 02:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by Lost in Maryland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah she is definetly taking advantage of you. Don't let her guilt you into anything. It usually takes more than another man to get a girl out of a relationship
2007-03-22 02:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is taking advantage of u which isnt right...u need to get out of that or talk to her about it and ask her why she only wants u for money like that....its not right at all get out
2007-03-22 02:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your being used and you need to put a stop to it NOW...If she's in a relationship where she is being abused then why is she in it??
2007-03-22 02:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by Alejandra2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋