Do you see favortism, once you have a child with that person
2007-03-22 02:31:00 · 7 answers · asked by Fruitful1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Here's an article about step parenting:
http://www.relationship-affairs.com/Step-parenting.html
2007-03-22 02:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sofia 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My ex had a 12 yr old daughter and I gave birth to a son and we did really well together. I think I went overboard to make sure his daughter was included and took care of her needs because I realized what I had done by giving birth to his first male child. His ex wife was very jealous. Everything went really well until I had a daughter and his daughter became really jealous and started doing crazy things. I ended up divorcing the dad. His daughter testified against me in the divorce and called the police on me and turned into the devil. I havent spoken to her in 15 yrs.
2007-03-22 09:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have 4 kids three are his Step kids and we have one together . For the most of it they get along but my 12 yr old and my husband butt heads pretty regular I have tried talking to them and nothing seems to work i have just left it at they are never going to get along and that's OK we set rules and boundaries so i never have to take sides .As for the son we have together i do see the difference with him and my husband being closer i think that is only natural but my sons are old enough to understand and they really don't seem to have a problem with it for now .
2007-03-22 10:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by SAHM and proud of it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very difficult. I have 2 kids, 2 step kids. They are all grown now and things are good. but it was extremely stressful. yes, it is natural to favor your own, but you CAN control your behavior if not your feelings. Try to be fair to all and keep the same rules for everyone. you will grow to love your step children. I have. I will never love them as much as my own, but I do not let that effect the way I treat them. They have become very close to me over the years. The key is to treat them the way you would have wanted loving parents to treat you. When they grow up, they will appreciate you for your care and concern. Be on their side. It's your job! Time moves so quickly. Before you know it, your kids will be grown and gone and the opportunity to love them lost forever.
Good luck. It is not easy, but you can do it!
2007-03-22 09:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by martinmagini 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything works well as long as there is good
communication and respect from both sides. My fiance
and I have 3 children each from a previous marriage and
everything goes well when allt the kids get together. We treat
all of them the same. If one of mine does something wrong,
he can tell him or her something. If one of his does something
I can also let him or her know not to do it again. We
communicate very well.
2007-03-22 10:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by lizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be their friend...not a parent...not blood or step in a real family...everyone is equal...let the blood parent do all the punishments....keep quiet....just be there as a friend...
2007-03-22 09:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it didnt when my dad got remarried ! but then again it may have helped if we had gotten the chance to get to know her and her kids before they did it !
2007-03-22 09:36:30 · answer #7 · answered by gands4ever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋