Ok this morning I wake up and my girlfriend is getting read for work. she then turns round and says whos dot. ( I have a friend on my phone as "." becuase I was too lazy to put their name in)
I couldnt remember who it was but said just a mate.
Then she starts to have a go at me about who it is. she thinks its another woman that I want to be with which its not and Im telling her this but I dont want to tell her the name because she has this real big thing about wanting to know who I talk to all the time. She used to go through my phone and quiz me on new numbers and messages I get.
I told to her just to "jack it in and leave." meaning leave the conversations and go to work. She took it that I wanted to break up. I tried to convince her that I dont want to break up but she didnt believe me. So i just said fine pack your things and leave its obviously what she wants as it comes up in every argument "i want to break up with her blah"
I just told her im staying at my dads tonight
2007-03-22 02:15:55 · 12 answers · asked by Ozy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im going away this weekend and need to think. she is very insecure very clingy and just does not respect it when I need time to myself. I love her but I dont think I can be with her. I really dont know what to do
2007-03-22 02:17:00 · update #1
we have been together 3 years and arguments like this happen at best once every three weeks but usually every week. Shes very jelous and has made me choose between her and a couple of my female friends. (this being one of them) HELP
2007-03-22 02:19:09 · update #2
6 months into our relationship I was flirting with a friend over text. I am a very flirty person with close friends but there was and never has been anything going on. she read the texts but thats about it.
I think I know that we need to break it off as this has gone on for 3 years and I have tried to reassure her. All your answers are right I need to do something. But how do I end a three year relationship with someone I live with.??
2007-03-22 02:29:55 · update #3
So you all recon I should end it?
2007-03-22 05:26:17 · update #4
if she doesn't trust you, then its over anyway. you are just putting off the inevitable. do yourself a favour and just move on before it turns nasty.
2007-03-22 02:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people have a real issue with jealousy, and while I agree that it's very annoying to be questioned all the time, they really can't help it. If you have nothing to hide, then waht's the problem with telling her whose number it is? She's probably going to phone it anyway. You are acting as if you have something to hide, and if she's insecure, then of course she's going to think you're hiding something. If you care about this girl, try working on the problem rather than making it worse. Reassure her she's the one you want, and stop keeping secrets from her, even silly ones like this. If you stop acting suspiciously, eventually she'll stop being suspicious. Some men like their women to be insecure and play stupid mind games with them - perhaps she has experienced this in the past and that's made her unsure - don't do the same thing to her again. And if you DO actually have something to hide, be man enough to admit it and give her the chance to move on and find someone who'll treat her with respect.
2007-03-22 02:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have u given her any reason to feel like this? If so u could possibly work on it and for everything to be ok. But if not if its just the way she is then im afraid u will either have to put up with it or get out of the relationship and explain that her reactions are getting u down and making u feel miserable. If u dont tell her this then it will grow to hate and im sure this is not what u want, u obviously love her enough to break up and still keep it amicable?
2007-03-22 02:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldnt be looking on your phone anyway i never look on my boyfriends phone as i no if a girl has text and put kisses who is only a friend i would take it the wrong way ,But i trust my man i no he doesn't cheat coz he never goes out. I think she says oh you want to break up to make u feel bad and say sorry n beg for her to forgive u i've done it a few times when my boyfriend is nasty towards me...i think u need to talk to her about trust issues she cant keep checkin ur phone for messages and new numbers its wrong...if she don't like that then she obviously doesnt love n trust u enough to be together.
2007-03-22 02:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has a HUGE trust issue! Has anything happened in your relationship previously that might make her feel that you would be unfaithful? The both of you need to communicate more openly or it will all 'go down the pan' eventually anyway.
Have your week away,then get together with her and tell her you want to have a sincere chat about things because you're tired of the arguing,jealousy,accusations and you want her to trust you. From there-well,that's up to the two of you.
2007-03-22 02:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is too dependant on you and needs to find herself instead of using you ...she obviously is very insecure and you need to look from both sides at what your relationship is based on. It sounds like she is more obsessed with you than in love with you and a break will give you both time to think...
Jealousy is often based on the other person having very low self esteem and no matter what you tell her she will still not believe you ,maybe she or both of you need therapy because it is not a healthy situation .If she is not willy to admit that she has issues and seek help maybe its time to say your goodbyes.
2007-03-22 02:28:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seem very clingy and seems like she don't trust you. Do you really want to be with some-one like this? Trust makes up a relationship and if you can;t even make a phone call without her knowing who, when, and what time it was ther isn;t much point. You need at least some freedom now and then
Oh yea remember friends come first!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-22 02:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a rather similiar situation and his jealousy and possesiveness is actually the thing driving me away. I wish I could help, but I think maybe you should just tell her straight - things aren't working, we have to take a break. Then just never call her again. It's horrible isn't it, just want to find a hole and curl up in it. You know what you have to do my friend - and the best of luck to you.
2007-03-22 02:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by floppity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the relationship while you still can. She sounds like a really jealous type - and she won't change. If anything it will get worse. Do you want to hide things and fight with her for the rest of your life? If the answer is No - then Go!
2007-03-22 02:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by celianne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a last chance if you feel that there is still something there, but explain to her exactly how you are not taking it anymore or she'll go back to the same.
She has the problem. If she doesnt think you are right, email her this page. ;)
2007-03-22 02:22:40 · answer #10 · answered by Sheldon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she does not trust you what is the point of your relationship??? you would be better of on your own for a while you might find some one else who does trust you .and you don't have to put up with the grief... hope all goes well
2007-03-22 02:36:42 · answer #11 · answered by red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋