my husband and i have 16 kids (8 [ 5 his own, 3 adopted] from his side, 5 [ 3 my own, 2 adopted ]from mine, and 3 [1 ours, 1 adopted, 1 foster care] from after we married), and also my niece and nephew are living with us for a while. they range in ages from 10 mo. - 19. We were recently at the childrens shelter to see about adopting our 16 year old foster son, when we met a child (with a past I'll fail to mention) there named Brittany. She was 13 and i just wanted to wrap her in my arms and tell her that nobody would ever hurt her again. i know it's not possible to take in every orphaned or hurting child in the world, despite the fact that if i could i would, but should we consider taking her in. Money and room is not an option. we have plenty of both to care for our kids. but i don't know how the others would respond. my husband feels the same way i do, but is stilla little unsure. opinions, thoughts?
2007-03-22 02:04:55 · 16 answers · asked by luv my kids nasty comm. unwanted 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If money and space aren't a problem and the agency will let you, who cares what other people will think. Its not like you'd be taking in a baby that will require a large amount of time with feedings and changings. I say go for it.
2007-03-22 02:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by vospire s 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, look out Cheaper by the Dozen, huh? Gosh and I thought that I was annoyed at the "Boy, you have your hands full" comment.. :) The Lord must've blessed you beyond all comprehension if you can afford that many children and a have a house that large.
If you feel led to take in this girl and money and room isn't an issue, then do it. Do you feel you can help her with her issues? I know you know that basically every foster child comes with many, many issues. Your "About Me" says that you're expecting 2 more children... is this something you feel you can handle while pregnant/with a newborn, just something to think about.
Pray about it.. ask your husband to pray about it.. pray together.. pray as a family... I'm sure you'll get the answer you need.
2007-03-22 02:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first involve the kids you have. Don't just adopt another without thinking about their feelings. But since you've already adopted some it shouldn't be "new" to them. If you can afford it and all kids are loved and cared for then I don't see a problem. It's nice to know that there are people like you out there that can and do take in foster children. I commend you for that. Good luck
2007-03-22 06:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by Melba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am thinking you have the same mentality as people that go to animal shelters and want to take them all home. Its a good kind heart but might be taking on more than you can handle. Since this child has a past, and your family seems to all get along right now, you might be starting troubles.
Focus on the needs of the ones you have, once a few have left the nest and the youngest is in school, then you can consider another one. You have saved more than your share allready!! Good luck!!
2007-03-22 02:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer. God showed you this specific child for a reason. There is something that you and yours can do for her. Make sure the kids are behind you - and her. She needs them.
You have the love, the ability, the resources - why are you asking us? If you are still unsure, put a fleece before God. Be specific and direct. He will give you your answer. Then do what he says - no more if, ands, or buts!!
By the way - thank you. I envy you - as I don't have the ability to care for as many as I wish. I know what you do is not easy. I pray that God is a part of your lives. Stay strong, keep loving, and may God Bless.
2007-03-22 02:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow first of all I think you're amazing and you must have the patience of a saint!!
I would discuss it with the rest of your children and see how they feel, explain to them that this little girl needs to be loved and that you and your husband would like to make her life as happy as you have for the others and as long as they are all happy I would go for it, well done you!!
2007-03-22 02:32:31 · answer #6 · answered by Angie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking each of them how they would feel about having another child come live with them...This isn`t something that can be answered for you, it`s up to you and your family. Your doing a wonderful thing by taking these kids..God bless you!
2007-03-22 02:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by bad kitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definatly do it no questions asked. If I could afford it I would take in any child I came across that needed someone to love them. I love huge familes and taking in so many would give them alot of brothers and sisters to turn to for help and support growing up.
2007-03-22 02:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by Cowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW I THOUGHT I WAS OVERLOADED WITH 4!! Good for you guys...if you can afford it and want to do it I say go for it. Sit down and talk to the kids I bet they will understand considering a lot of them are not biologically yours anyway.
2007-03-22 02:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by got all I need 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something few, if not NO one here can answer for you. Remember, nothing on this earth happens without God's knowledge or allowing it. Only you know how God is speaking to yours and your husband's heart. When you get His answer, then ask for peace and comfort in God's decision.
God bless you.
2007-03-22 02:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋