Getting married abroad next year with a party when we get back I have 2 friends getting married here this year and they are so stressed and highly strung I'm dreading getting into the planning of mine.
Does it have to be the mega stress?
2007-03-22 02:04:19 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No. I planned my wedding in a day and a half (no I wasn't pregnant we were just ready and both of our families were in town) I had use of our church garden, I bought a dress (of the rack and altered), shoes, veil our rings everything in a total of 16 hours. I even had time for a spray tan, professional hair and makeup. The planning is stressful if you worry about making everyone else happy. If you and your fiance can decide what you want and stick to it, of course respecting certain family traditions and what not, then the planning of your wedding doesn't have to be stressful at all. What mattered most to us was being married, so that's what we did! Also, the more factors you add to the wedding i.e. a destination wedding etc the more stressful the planning will be. Good luck!
2007-03-22 03:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by miss m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mum they let me tell you they don't have to be stressful, it's the person or couple that makes it stressful. I had a daughter married 5 years ago and it was lovely time planning etc. I have another daughter being married this July and it really is Stress Unlimited. However it is not necessary, only her own fault for trying to do umpteen things at once, leaving everything late and just not listening/ She then tends to say she is sick talking about weddings. If she would sit down and have a discussion instead of shouting going out the door, sending texts etc telling us bits of info and not the full story it would also help. If you sit down and write a list of all that is required, organise it when you can and just sit back. In your case if marrying abroad you probably will have a wedding planner so that part should be taken care of. For your party almost everything can be booked well in advance so do it while you are not buying your dress etc. Caters and flowers for tables invitations all can be booked well ahead too. Ensure you have written confirmation about everything and about a week before phone and check all is in place. Even a list to your mum or family member can take this out of your hands just leading up to the wedding. Okay there is occasions when things can go wrong but it isn't all that usual and normally can be rectified with a bit of thought. Conclusion is that weddings are as stressful or unstressful as you want to make them. Good luck.
2007-03-22 05:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I got married last April and we got engaged the Feb before that, so we had a while to plan. To be honest the only stressful part was when we had a problem getting the church sorted out, once that was sorted it was plain sailing, but I think you have to have an attitude of like, this is OUR day and it's our perogative what we do and how we do it - don't be railroaded into anything by family/friends who think they know best. You can't escape a bit of stress because it is after all a big thing to organise (well unless you're having a small gathering) but you should try to enjoy it too or else you will be stressed on the day that something wasn't planned to the most perfect minute detail and that's just silly. On my wedding day, a couple of things didn't quite go as I'd imagined, but I was too happy to care and everyone had a good time and wanted for us to have a good time and that's how it should be! You will have the best day ever I'm sure :-)
2007-03-22 02:38:30 · answer #3 · answered by Clazza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sincerely hope not. I have 6 months to go and at first, it was stressful because I just didn't know where to begin. I had always known that it takes a year to plan a wedding so I started in September 06 (I didn't get officially engaged until December 24) and my wedding is September of this year. But still, it was like "oh my God, what do I do now, I have to find a hall, a caterer, bridesmaids, can I afford the this or that". But now it's better, I'm more calm that I have the "big" things out of the way. I set up an account on theknot.com and created a checklist and that REALLY helped. I asked friends an family to help out, dishing out chores to everyone and that help even more. So I think there will be some stress because you want things to be perfect (I on the other hand just want it over with, my fiance is the one who really wants the wedding, I just want to get married) but after a time, things settle down and then you start to play the "waiting" game. Like now, I have my dress and no where every necessary thing is coming from. I don't have much to do but wait for a few months until I have to do the other things. Anyway, good luck and congrats.
2007-03-22 02:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No they don't have to be stressful.
Its people worrying about 'the day' and the impression they will make that makes people stresed - if you focus on how lovely it'll be whether or not things 'go right' it needn't be streesful.
I found the most stressful things to be my mum trying to get involved in everything and my fiance trying to not get involved in anything at all.
I suggest that before you even get to planning you and your intended sit down with a notebook, a few wedding magazines and a nice bottle of wine and agree what your wedding and party will be like - that way you present a united front and you have a plan to work to.
Good luck and enjoy it!
2007-03-22 05:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The major stress points are caused by 2 things - Money and Family.
People spend on average £15k on their wedding so this increases the risk for the couple. I got married nearly 4 yrs ago when the average spend was £13.5k. We spent £7.5k in total which included ALL rings (included engagement), wedding day stuff (Church, Dress, Suits, Cars, Venue, Food, Drink, Evening food and DJ, flowers, etc), and the honeymoon to Italy for a week.
I have been to tons of weddings since and, while I know I am biased, I enjoyed my wedding the most. I believe this was because we were very relaxed with the whole thing.
Also, family can be a huge issue. Who to invite/not invite, where to sit them and with who, who will you ask to be Bridesmaids etc.
My advice, talk things through with your close family and ensure that they are involved all the way and understand why you are doing what you are doing. Also, don't spend too much - it is just one day! While we were quite frugal with our spending of the day, it was and still is, the best day of my life. I just made sure that my wife and I kept relaxed and enjoyed every minute of the day.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-22 02:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
At minimum, they are as stressful to plan as any other event, be it graduation, birthday, etc. At maximum, they are horrifyingly stressful if you are of the mindset that everything has to be perfect, because this is the most important day you will ever have for the rest of your whole entire life. And if it isn't absolutely perfect, nothing will ever be right for you again.
See? This kind of thinking is what makes it stressful. Plan it like a party, an event. It will only be as stressful as the roadblocks you encounter. Like, the printer is late with the invitations. Or the flowers won't be the exact shade of puce that you simply have to have, or it will be the end of the world....
2007-03-22 02:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maximum people who locate themselves making plans a marriage have no earlier adventure organizing a great journey for hundreds of persons. merely the actuality that some human beings make a residing making plans weddings as an entire-time interest shows how plenty artwork is going into wedding ceremony making plans, and for somebody with out adventure, this is totally overwhelming. Weddings are additionally very emotional and the rigidity of making plans has a tendency to deliver out the worst in every physique. human beings have very reliable critiques regarding the main factors of weddings (each and every element) and a good form of are actually not afraid to share. So on real of attempting to coordinate a massive journey related to a lot of persons, brides and grooms are additionally handling the actuality which you will not please every physique. i did not even extremely care approximately all the little info, and making plans my wedding ceremony became nonetheless between the main annoying issues I even have ever had to do.
2016-11-27 21:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine was a dream! the only stress i had was the table plan which you obviously can't do until all the replies are back in, you can get round this by putting an R.S.V.P BY .....on the invites.Other tips are to delegate, i got married in Lancashire and live in London so only had certain weekends to organise things, my sisters and in-laws were made to feel part of the planning, my sister made the ladies favours, my other sister did the calligraphy on the table settings , my mother -in-law oversaw the flowers (in fact going in to the shop everyday for a whole week before to check they hadn't forgotten! )
Have a wonderful day and relax, certain things are way beyond your control, all the people at your wedding are your family and friends and are ther e to see you married and share your day!
2007-03-22 03:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by magshatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, I have seen a couple of people get so stressed by the wedding and they argued with their future spouse so much. It is supposed to be a happy time so just take it all easy. Make a list of all the things that need to be done and put a date by which they need to be done. Set aside time each week to do the next thing off the list and it will all work out great.
2007-03-22 02:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by clairelou_lane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋