hyper boys help?

Question

i have 3 kids (boys) they are 3, 4, 5, they are so hyper nothing calms them down, have tryed before, any body got any ideas? they keep hiting each other too....

Answer 1

I'm afraid i agree with the others, boys are boys and in my experience (16 years as a nanny) boys are much more physical than girls.

get them outside when you can if it's raining wear coats if it's sunny wear suncream!!
fresh air and exercise is the best thing to tire them out.

your older 2 are old enough to understand not to hit and you can explain to them why ie; it hurts the others and makes you sad.

you being sad will work much better than you being cross, they don't really understand cross but they do understand sad.

good luck

xxxx

Answer 2

I have 4 children including 1 HYPER 5 yr old boy. In school his teacher says he is a perfect angel and never acts out or gets into any trouble ( which drives me nuts, knowing he can act that way!) One thing I have found is soccer. I signed him up for a peewee soccer team. They run during practice and the games and it tires him out a bit. Plus he build self confidence. it doesn't last all year, but its a break. I feel your frustration, I hope this is a phase these boys will eventually outgrow.

Answer 3

Make sure they have a helthy diet with not too much sugar and additives etc. Then make sure they have a lot of opportunity to burn off all that energy. Go to the park, go for walks, play in garden (if you have one) etc. Get them to have individual time instead of always being together as that will get them more and more hyper. As soon as you see signs of them getting carried away, stop what they are doing, sit them down and re focus them and calm them.

Answer 4

There are ways we can help support our boys' NORMAL active impulses. Start by developing an appreciation for what and how boys like to play and by giving them safe spaces at home where they can go wild. And get out the pillows and join in the fun from time to time!

Allow your boys to play the games they want to play — within reason, as long as boys don't hurt each other. Set rules that are right for your house like "no baseball bats inside" but don't inhibit their ability to play.

Stay close by and monitor the situation to be sure the kids are in control, but don't intervene unless one boy is dominating the other in a hurtful way.

Let your boys play games at home that they can't play at school. .

Limit the amount and type of violence your young boys are exposed to through television, movies, and videogames.

Control the remote. Make sure your television is located where you can see what your child is watching.

Remember boys' adventurous fantasies are not the same as real aggression.

Find appropriate places for boys to act out their games. Instead of saying, "stop running around in the restaurant," suggest you save the game for outside. Instead of saying, "Don't be so wild at school," you might suggest "When you walk into school you have to stop doing that." This way, boys learn that the game is OK, but the behavior is not appropriate for a specific occasion and needs to be modified.

Try not to be critical of your son's interests. "There's a thin line between hating the things a boy likes and hating the boy," says Joseph Tobin. "If everyday you're telling a boy, 'I can't believe you like this stuff,' you are telling him that there is something wrong with what he is interested in. That said, I'm not saying that all media is appropriate."

Keep communication open and keep talking together. Ask your boy to tell you about his world, what he likes and what disturbs him. And listen to how he feels without judgment so he doesn't feel he has to hide those things from you.

Keep in mind when you inhibit boys' natural aggression, they may become more aggressive. "Punishing boys by taking outlets like recess away may only encourage them to become more excited and aggressive " "Teachers take it away because boys like it. But if boys liked reading, would teachers take that away?"

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Answer 5

As an ex-boy myself I have to deliver the bad news to you: it's going to get worse before it gets better. Trying to get them to play together may help and at the same time breaking them up (different activities for the ages etc) may be the start of a very long strategy. 3,4,and 5....my word.

Answer 6

Take the baby matress out of the crib (if you still have one that is) and put it on the floor and let them jump on it. Take them to the park, take them to Mc.Donald's indoor playplace, they need to burn off that energy. You also need to be more invovled with them. Try actually playing with them, also for the hitting thing...time out! They really need to know when they are hurting their brother...they are HURTING MOM! They just might see hitting their brother in a whole new way.

Answer 7

hi my son is four now since starting school he has calmed down a lot also he takes omega 3 tablets just get hthem out and about park etc

Answer 8

Boys are boys...and I know that is not an excuse...sorry. I would try limiting their sugar intake and anything with red dye in it. Make them go outside if you can,that is what my sis does.