does he have feelings for me that overwhelm him?

Question

have not seen a guy since high school now many years later he emails me and says i was the love of his life, we should have stayed together we would have married...he lives overseas and i live in the states. he says he is divorced and currently living with a woman he is not in love with but he does not want to hurt her because he has been hurt and does not want to do the same thing...we still email each other for over a year now.. ..he constantly drops hints that he cares for me and how stupid he was as kid with me but then pulls back and says all i can be is friend...when i tell him i will be overseas on business and would you like to meet for a drink he says he is busy with work travelling. if he thinks of me only as a friend, then why won't he have a drink with me? does he have feelings for me? is he afraid that if he sees and then i leave to go back home he will be too affected?

Answer 1

...there's allot of heaviness in his remarks to you darling...this is quite obvious...but he does live overseas here too! Having a drink with you isn't really the problem here though darling...following through on his embellishments to you might be though. He's conflicted by the fact that right now he IS with someone...and he doesn't want to hurt them mentally or unreasonably otherwise. I'm certain he still has deep feelings for you darling...but his mind is restless in his own thoughts with this other woman he's with right now. Let him finish with where he's at right now first hun...and pursue his still inflamed affections for you with him later. He's gotta put out his first fire before he should even be thinking about starting another one with you reasonably. I'm not certain as to how you really feel about his unfettered taunting and teasing remarks here babe...but beware of the wolf in sheep's clothing here darling. He's fantasizing about his once used to be intentions with you darling...but they're only HIS intentions darling...not yours. You have to decide if he's gonna be worth the effort of going overseas otherwise. Personally I believe he should come to you darling...but that's simply my instincts talking hun. If he really wants to start it up with you again sweetie?...make him come to you seriously....otherwise I'm thinking this is simply gonna become wasted time for you. He started this spark again darling. Let him come fan the flames babe. Cool?