My dad died last year and my mother died when I was 28 yrs old. My ex husbands parents both died before my kids were 5. My dad was the only grandparent my kids knew..ever. My parents had me when my dad was 40 and my mother was 38.
Now dealing with my boyfriends family has become kind of weird. He is 54 yrs old and his mother is alive and still works. He had living grandparents up until about 4 yrs ago. His kids have grandparents, great grandparents, on both sides.
I am kind of jealous, but realize there is nothing I can do. I hope my kids have children while they are young so they can have living grandparents. Do you think that is strange?
2007-03-22 01:47:14 · 9 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i don't think it's strange at all. my dad is the only grandpa my kids know. he's 78 and i have started wondering where i'll be when he's gone. i think we all reach a point in our lives when we realize our own mortality. it's normal. my youngest never met my mom and i never met hers. i am a little jealous over the fact that the only grandma my youngest knows is my mil. i want him to know my mom. i too, hope my boys will have their kids at a young age,25-27 maybe, so that i can enjoy them.
2007-03-22 03:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not strange and we all wish we could have that because we think this is the way it should be. I had both my grandmas but the one who lived in my city was a bitc*h and the other one was so far away and I got to see her like 5 times in my whole life so I really didnt have feelings for her. when she died my mom was a mess but I couldnt care less because to be honest: in order for me to love someone, I have to know them and respect them. I never met my dad's father because she died before my parents got married and I still have my other grandpa but it's the same thing, he lives sooooooooo far away that for me it's just the father of my mother. My nephews&nieces got to enjoy their grandparents a lot until my dad died 8 years ago. 3 of them had lots of fun with him but the 4th one was less than a year and the 5th one was born a year after my dad died. At least my nephews and nieces had quality time and all the good memories they have it's because of my dad. Mom helps them a lot too so they love their grandma because she cooks their fav meals and stay with them when they need help. I never thought of my father died before me because I always thought he was going to walk me down the aisle, take care of my babies, take them to the park and buy candies for them and all that. I still have a hard time dealing with the fact that he is not here anymore and that we can't build more memories together....
2007-03-22 06:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by chikis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do, I feel for you. I'm 56 and had my grandmother until a year and a half ago. She was sharp as a tack until she drew her last breath. I miss her so much. My mother died 5 1/2 years ago and not a day goes by that I don't think and miss her. It really sucks when you no longer have a loved one to hug any more.
2007-03-22 02:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You just realize what your kids missed in not having grandparents. When you kids have children, be the grandparent you wish they had.
2007-03-22 02:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by megan261980 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I suggest that you do is make a family tree for your kids, not just with names, but with birthdays, anniversaries, pictures, and stories about everyone. My grandpa died 3 years before I was born, and no one ever talked about him or told me much about him. When I found out what cemetary he was buried at, I went to visit his gravesite. It turned out that it was going to be 100 years since he was born that year, and I felt kind of connected to him then even though I never met him. I've also found pictures of him with his sons (my dad and uncles), which I think is really cute. Preserve those memories for your kids, and for their kids.
2007-03-22 05:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, grandparents are a very important aspect in their grandchildrens life. It is like home, away from home. The grandparents surround their grandchildren with unsurmountable love.
2007-03-22 01:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal and I think the same too. I want my parents with me forever and it scares me that I might lose them one day. I agree with you and just enjoy life and TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEALTH SO YOU LIVE LONG FOR THEM
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2007-03-22 03:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you to coz i lost my da when i was eight years old. sadly i don't speak to my grandparents bt i have a good step dad.
2007-03-22 02:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by Evertongrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre talking about your life, then asking a question, which one do you want us to answer? Your life, or how our life will be when our parents die.
2007-03-22 02:19:20 · answer #9 · answered by Love is Patient, Love is Kind ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋