do i put my son in childcare?

Question

my son is 2 1/2yrs old and i am considering putting him in childcare 1 day a wk so i can do the shopping an pay bills with ease. im 9wks pregnant also an have a 5yr old. i feel guilty as i didnt do this with my daughter. any opinions or suggestions on putting him in childcare?

Answer 1

I don't think it's a bad idea for one day a week. I don't know how much contact he has with children other than siblings, but it would probably be beneficial for him to widen his circle of friends. Just because you didn't do something with your daughter doesn't mean it's wrong to do it with your son. Your circumstances are different now. Just be sure you research your options as to daycare facilities, private child care, or whatever you decide to do. Visit the places you're considering, compare costs and what each place offers; try to match your childcare with your son's temperament and needs. That's the best advice I can give you.

Answer 2

I have 4 children, and I would have to say definitely not. Your son is still a baby and with you being pregnant with another little one, I think you may have some jealousy issues to deal with. He may feel like you are pushing him away a bit. 2 1/2 year olds can not comprehend that another baby is coming into the family, and now he will have to share mommy. I think you should keep him home as long as possible and enjoy him! He won't be the baby much longer and you will want to remember that special time you had with him! I know its difficult sometimes when you have several little ones and are pregnant too, but perhaps you could do the bills in the evening when they are in bed, and schedule your shopping, etc.. during a time that he is happiest, or do it after your husband comes home. Good luck!

Answer 3

I do not know if my opinion will help you but as when my son is about 7 mths old... I was a full time mum but want to study some courses in Tafe... I had to put him to childcare for two days and he love it there...
yes, they do get gems ect... but later in life they won't be so sick as my son now not as sick as when he was baby ...
Not that I am back to work full time, he goes to childcare full time 5days, 8 hours... of course as a mum misses me and alwasy think about him and if he is fine or get bully in childcare or something happen to him but because I trust the childcare workers to take good care of him...
He loves it there and learn a lot of new words which I did not teach him... they teach him to read, count, play, share, dance,
alphabet, listen to music, paint and even sometimes make things home to give to us...
I think is good to have your kid there as not because you can have some free time to yourselves and can rest as when you pregnant you get tired very easy... and the childcare workers will look after him carefully so you don't have to worry so much and yes maybe is not fair to you daughter but then at that time maybe you did not need to put her there... and now you need to ... don't fell quilty at all..

All parents do things different but what you think is best go for it....
Hope all information helps you.

Answer 4

No don't feel guilty this is perfectly normal. You definitely need your time to carry out the household chores without interuption and a little time for yourself. Once you are sure you are comfortable with the person whom is taking care of him you have absolutely no need to worry, besides I am sure he will enjoy it as it gives him the opportunity to play and enjoy the company of other children. He may cry on the first day or two but he will get accustomed and you both will be happy about the decision, very soon he will be coming home telling you about his day, don't worry...........it's only one day, so give yourself some time.

Answer 5

As long as the childcare is reputable and safe, I don't see a problem with it. Don't feel guilty, things change with each child. I think in the long run, he will get a chance to be a little more independent and you will be a better mother because you've been able to handle these tasks with greater ease.

Answer 6

Sure go for it. The interaction he will get with other kids will help him socially.

My mother put me in child care and stayed home a lot with my older brother. She even worked at her job part-time for him and full-time for me. I turned out just fine. He was a finicky child that cried when my mother would try to leave him with child care. I always understood even at a very young age that my parents had to work so I had no choice but to be in child care. I never cried when I was dropped off. I met some very good friends there too.

Answer 7

Putting your son in daycare will make for an easier transition when it is time for him to start school. Also, it will allow him to build socialization skills with other children his age. Do not feel guilty; look at all the advantages there are to putting him there.

Answer 8

Maybe you could find a "Mother's Morning Out" program where you live. Most kids like it and some are ran by local churches.

Answer 9

Your son needs play time with kids his age.. its good for him and will help him learn to be social and less dependant on you. Feel free to drop him off there. Millions of parents around the world drop their kids off every day, does that make them bad parents? Not in my opinion. They just need to work, in your case, you need to maintain a household. That's a job in itself.

Answer 10

Yes, you need a break! Put them all in day care besides your gonna need a babysitter to watch them soon start now!