Theres a boy that Ive been talking to for about 3 months and its great. Hes really cute I mean a total dime. I tell people constantly that were together I guess because Im a little insecure and dont want anyone to hit on him. Well hes made about this because he doesnt want the whole world in his business. I know I wrong for not respecting his wishes, but I cant help it. What should I do?
2007-03-22 01:34:00 · 17 answers · asked by Tiffany c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would say ok and then go off and hook up with someone else as well then see what he has to say about that and say "well you wanted us to be a secret so why not?"
2007-03-22 01:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either tell him to grow up, or leave him. The only reason men want secret relationships is when they don't want to scare off other women - not a good combination. Try asking him if he's ashamed of being with you.
Don't forget - he's wrong for not respecting your wishes as well. Relationships should make both of you happy. If not, find a relationship that does.
2007-03-22 01:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going to go against everyone on this and offer a different side to the story. Im the same way, the reason is because i don't want anyone talking about us, i hate gossip and i hate everyone knowing that we go out, i cant stand people that know around me because it gets on your nerves and eventually someone will start a rumour or something and everything will fall apart, I like to keep my relationship between me and my girlfriend, i dont have to show her to the world, isnt that just trying to impress everyone? I only want her and me
2007-03-22 01:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by rayray34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself why doesn't he want to share me with the rest of the world? Is there something about your relationship that he is uncomfortable about? If he is not secure with the relationship, its not a relationship. Having someone hit on your boyfriend is aggrevating but if you have a cutie its bond to happen, just remember he is with you and you should feel special that you two have something the others want. If he doesn't see that then move on to someone who will see you for what you are worth!
2007-03-22 01:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply put: you don't.
You should ask yourself why he's REALLY not willing to admit to dating you. I doubt it's because he doesn't want the whole world in his business. (Really, how old is this player anyway? Fourteen? Fifteen? What kind of "business" does he really have?) Is he ashamed of you? Is he trying to keep his options open? What?
The fact that he's really cute is NOT a good reason to accept this continuing humiliation/ insult. Looks fade, honey. Give him 25 years and he'll have a pot belly and half the hair he used to (and more of it in places he never did before). But he'll still be the same a**hole he is now.
Is your self-esteem really worth that? I say it isn't!
Good luck to you!
2007-03-22 01:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONLY date guys are would be PROUD to have you at their side. He is only trying to use you, and you deserve to be treated lovingly and kindly by a guy that wants to be seen with you. ell him that you are so proud to have him as a part of your life that you want to scream it from the rooftops....but that you will respect his wises as best you can, and limit sharing your happiness with your close friends only. If he insists otherwise, break it off, and make sure the whole world knows it so some nice guy will know you are available again.
2007-03-22 01:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be with someone who doesn't want people to know that y'all are together. Because more than likely he is cheating on you and doesn't want the other girl to find out about you two. Why else wouldn't he want everyone to know that y'all are a couple and how is everyone going to be in y'all business just because they know y'all go together, he just don't want them to tell you his secret.
2007-03-22 01:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by Lady T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he has some other reason for not wanting anyone to know. Is he seeing someone else? Or does he just not want anyone to know that you are together to leave him open to play the field? Don't seem to me that this is right, I would tell him acknowledge me or see ya. Get yourself someone who is proud to be with you!
2007-03-22 01:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i'd ask why he wants it to be secret. and if it's because he thinks people won't approve then he's not right. but always always go with your heart and not your head when you're trying to figure out your relationship, because thinking rationaly isn't always the greatest thing to do.
good luck!
2007-03-22 01:40:20 · answer #9 · answered by shortie_chick260 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I would DUMP him! Dude why do you want a boy who isn't screaming to the roof tops "she is mine!" He should be proud to be with you. Seems to me if he isn't telling people he either isn't( proud I mean)...or he is playing out. Just an opinion but, I speak from experince.
2007-03-22 01:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by sistermarybella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not proud to be with you, then you need to move on to someone who is. He should be acting the same way you are about your relationship: telling everyone! Dump him and move on to someone who's happy to be with you.
2007-03-22 04:00:33 · answer #11 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋