My girlfriend and I got back together about 3-4 months ago. We are going to different colleges and know that it wont be easy but we had a long time apart and it was driving us both nuts. We really love each other and I trust her 100%. I guess it´s been a year and a half now and I´m still crazy about her so all is good.
Except she wont tell any of her friends about me. She is muslim and Im not so it´s not completely certain how they would judge her etc. Sometimes when I go to visit her Ive had to take the back door out so no one can see me and generally avoid being seen with her. It feels like Im being jerked around a little but for all I know Im being unreasonable. She loves me but shes just odd.
To make matters worse a guy (her best friend at college) likes at her. He is always trying to flirt wıth her and tried to hold her hand once. She wont tell him about me even after I requested. This makes me really uneasy.
So am I asking too much? Even if she doesnt like him lıke that?
2007-03-22 01:33:09 · 5 answers · asked by John S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been in the same situation. If she will not tell others, especially her "people" about you then it will not get any better later. I really doubt you have long term possibilities here. Sorry.
2007-03-22 01:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well far as the best friend that's a guy it's either one of two things. They really aren't best friends, they are f*ck buddies instead and she's cheating on him with you or they really are friends. But they can't be all that close because if she couldn't tell anybody about you she should be able to tell him. You have a perfectly good reason to feel the way you do and I wouldn't trust their relationship or him. I mean you know because you are a guy also, so think about it like that. And he's not gonna stop trying to get with her because far as he knows shes single. She's not telling him that's she's with somebody that she loves. Now about the hiding of the relationship she's only gonna do it as long as you allow her too. I was kinda in that situation I was with this guy and he just wouldn't bring me around his family after like 4 months. I asked him when could I meet his family, he told me he didn't know. I left it alone but come to find out they thought he was still with his kids mother, because they always had broken up and gotten back together. But I told him they always gonna think that as long as you let em'. And the next week, I met his family. So all I'm saying is to have a serious talk with her and let her know that you don't feel comfortable about her hiding the relationship and that it makes you feel uncomfortable. I mean she should want too, she's in love and excited, why not wanna share it with her close family and friends. She doesn't have to give too much detail and tell them your life story but just that she has somebody and she loves you should be enough. I don't see how she does it, I can't stop talking about me and my boyfriend. I love him and our relationship, good luck and hope this was extremely helpful.
2007-03-22 08:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by misscancer10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being Muslim is not easy and it really is a different culture. I'm sure if people found out from her circle of friends that she was with someone that wasn't then they would probably reject her.
I understand that you love her but she should fight for what she wants. (if this is in the USA). I wouldn't care what people think of me. Keep trying to work it out with her. but if this isn't for you then just except it and move on.
2007-03-22 08:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by destiney 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok im gonna say it if she cant let her friends know shes dating some one whos not from her faith and does her 'rents know? cuz they are the ones you would want "approval "from not friends but if you love her then tell her hopefully shell say it back and let you be in her friends circle but if not id drop her fast cuz if she wont tell you about the guy friend then other guy friends are in the wing best off luck
2007-03-22 08:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by delichottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is complicated, confront her, ask her whats going on, there's nothing wrong with asking!and tell her not to tell a lie!
2007-03-22 08:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by ~rAveLic!oUs~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋