i have a boy friend that i have been with for more than 6 months already. He is not very responsive and expressive in relationship. When we are with each other, we are very happy and always having a great time. But when we are not seeing each other during the week, i am always the one who tells him how much i miss him and saying romantic things. He doesnt call me much but he only sms me. I feel like i'm the dominant person in this relationship, i am a driving person to lead where the relationship is going. I am getting tired now. I start to question how much he cares for me. He's never introduced me to his friends or family, even though we are now together. I'm thinking to be not responsive to him, to see if that would make any different in our relationship and whether he will come to realise that he has to do sth. Should i stop calling him and replying to his msg during the week now? Would that give him a confusing message that i am not into him anymore?Does it do more harm than good?
2007-03-22 01:24:21 · 11 answers · asked by sailormoon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in the EXACT same situation...he never wanted to meet my friends and he never introduced me to his, he rarely called mainly texted me - except it was the weekends he was gone- he flew out of town...hmmmm....When we were together he was the greatest boyfriend and I was so happy, but the minute we were apart I was miserable b/c I knew what was in store and he would somehow really upset me b/c I wanted more and felt like I carried the relationship and of course since he flew out of town every weekend I didn't trust him. And honestly, as hard as it was I had to let him go, it still hurts b/c it's so easy to think about the good times and forget the bad ones and I miss him terribly but I know its for the best.
My advice is to weigh the good and the bad. Are the good times worth going through the other times when he upsets you? You also need to remember that he IS NOT the only guy out there and if you need more from a relationship then I promise there is someone who will be willing to give that to you. Now is my "tough love" advice: if you were as important to him as he is to you, don't you think he would want you to meet his friends and family? Why is he hiding you? You don't deserve that at all. I don't know you personally, but I do know that if he really cared about you and thought the relationship was going somewhere he should be proud of you and would have invited you to at least have met his friends by this point. Believe me when I say I know that it hurts to hear this advice, because I have already heard it....it took 9 months of this treatment before I had the strenght to walk away, and I just hope that you will be able to as well. It is not an easy thing to do, but in the end it will be for the best.
2007-03-22 02:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by UGAFan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At six months you pretty much no how you feel about a person and at this is the time to start evaluating the relationship. The fact that you have not met any of his family and friends is a big thing! When a guy is in a relationship he likes to show off his girl to everyone he's proud to have you on his arm and the fact that you are the one who's doing all the doing in the relationship is not good either relationships are 50/50. Don't play games, tell him exactly how you feel and how you want the relationship to be and if he can't comply with that then move on to someone who will.
2007-03-22 01:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by GoodGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys don't like taking the initiative in a relationship, try telling him how you really feel, also 6 months isn't really that long so keep trying. If not there are plenty of fish in the sea.
2007-03-22 01:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months and hes not introducing u to anyone?
bring it up say why dont we get a bunch our friends to gether this weekend and do something in a group? see how he responds to that?
i wouldnt completely stop responding but if u see hes calling dont asnwer.... wait like 15-20 mins and call back. with ims... dont asnwer or better yet try not to go on so much. make it look like ur busier then u are. then he might try harder to keep ur attention.
little things work sometimes
GOOD LUCK = )
2007-03-22 01:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would talk to him and tell him how you feel about all of these things. Good relationships have good communication. Maybe he is just not a romantic guy, who knows.
If you want it to work out...have that talk.
be cool...
2007-03-22 01:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello point sound like he in his own little world it might be the way he was raise and he watching what he said and do so that why it might be why he leave it up to you his dad might have done the same as he doing his mom might be the dominant one in his family so he might be doing what he has tought when he was young hay dont take my world for it that my two cent's worth now tell me what to do just kidding
2007-03-22 01:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally ignore him for two weeks and see what he does. He sounds like a moron. Dumb him.
2007-03-22 02:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with him if his mind is a good one
i think u can judge
2007-03-22 01:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should not be responsive.....n so he will pay more attention 2 u
2007-03-22 01:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by preetty please 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so... But I don't know!!!
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2007-03-22 01:32:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋