How do I get my girlfriend back from a new guy?

Question

My girlfriend and I had been going out for 4 years, a quarter of both of our lives... and we both loved each other unconditionaly to the end, on the phone constantly, always together. But about a month and 3 weeks ago, she calls and says she wants some space. I pry out of her that she's looking to see another guy, and I do everything I can to make things work again. She tells me she loves me, she still is... 'intimate' with me, and we still see each other all the time. But I can't get her to leave this controling guy and come back to me who just wants to take care of her! I tell her everything..... is there anything I can do besides be a jerk and tell him what's going on between the two of us.... like the cheating on him. -_-

Answer 1

omg.. u sound lyk the sweetest guyever!!! that girl must be blind if she chooses some other dude over you!! well first you need to talk to her and find out if it would be okay with her if you talked to him about! if its not okay... she must not care as much about ur relationship as much as u do! and if that's true... maybe u should try to keep ur distance from her for a while! if it is okay...then just pull him aside and ask if it would be okay with him if u guys could have a man to man talk! explain to him that u nd her still hav feelings for each other!

Answer 2

You are 16. You met her at 12. I am sure you heard the "There is more fish in the sea" saying... well there is. Enjoy life and go out and meat new people.

Seriously dude, losing a chick sucks. I have been there so I know. The best way to get over a girl is with other girls. And as hard as it is, you need to say no to the "intimate" part too. It just holds you down. Females (I honesly believe) know that they can control a man this way and will use it to their advantage.

Force yourself to have fun and eventually you will stop have to force it.

Answer 3

She's having her cake and eating it too. She has the new guy she's interested in and she has you there willing to be whatever she wants you to be. She wanted space so that's what you need to give her. The only way she will miss you and want you back is if she thinks she might lose you for good. And threats don't work. You need to do it. Don't talk to her every day. Don't see her every time she wants to see you. DON'T be intimate with her. If she questions your new direction then tell her you are moving on with your life. If she really wants you, she will come running back to you.
By telling the other guy she's cheating on him will only cause her to be mad at you and possibly never speak to you again. If you are willing to risk that then do it.

Answer 4

4 years is a long time. But if she really DID love you she wouldnt be going out with another guy. and it's terrible because like I said, 4 years with the same person is a VERY LONG TIME. But if I were you I'd tell her to make up her mind, that you're tired of playing in this love triangle. oh and, dont be a jerk, otherwise she wont want to have anything to do with you.

Answer 5

The one thing you must always do is maintain your status as a man. You were once first in this woman's life, so don't allow her to sneak around with you now, while she enjoys the company of another man. Instead, find the courage to let her go until she is ready to put you first in her life again. If that doesn't happen, you will at least have your self-respect in tact. Understand that a man never allows a woman to compromise his integrity, by reducing him to second place.

Answer 6

dificult one, it seems she is getting the best ot the two. You shouldn't compete over her with other guy, I think it is better if you leave her, and ignore her, maybe then she will realize what she has lost and come back. If you don't she will always be in control and could keep doing this anytime she wants,cause your ok with this.

I think she still likes you and is just confused give her space and time an hopefully she will come back.


She is not cheating him, she is cheating u

Answer 7

it may sound odd but this is the best medicine for girls like her...u are a nice guy and u have been always there for her, she takes advantage of you by trying out other guys knowing to herself that u will always be there..

now just ignore her for a while..dont go with another girl that is childish..just ignore her, make less time for her..tell her that u are busy, dont call her for a few days and u will see how quickly she come to you..that means she realise the mistake she made and that u both belong together..

if she dont come to you, she dont care about you,,get rid of that tramp...she is taking advantage of you.

Answer 8

i know - if you could only have her back and things would be just the same as they used to be...all comfy and loved up together. but that aint going to happen. even if you could persuade her to leave him, things wouldnt be the same. she cheated on you. that's undermined all the trust you had. plus, there must have been soe issue somewhere in the relationship that made her want to leave it in the first place and look for someone else. she wasn't completely happy then and she wouldnt be again unless you got to the bottom of the issue. do you really want to have to persuade someone to be with you? shouldnt she want to be with you and only you of her own free will?

Answer 9

Typical, just leave her alone...But continue talking to her, don't let her go, don't be intimate with her, she stringing you along...
She knows she can get you whenever she wants, if she is with another guy, she is cheating on him...Tell her if she wants space, space is what you're going to give her...4 years is too long to give up, so let her learn her lesson, give her space, and let her know she can't have you unless she's with you and not him.

Answer 10

It sounds to me that you might be in love with her but your better off without her. If she is cheating on her new man with you then you don't need her. Cut the strings with her and she might come crawling back but be careful. Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater