I mean he literally walks past me and doesn't notice me. If I walk into a bar where he is he doesn't notice me either. It gets me down that im so obsolite to him! And that I always notice him. Why am I invisable to him? We've been seeing three years so he knows what I look like!
2007-03-22 00:47:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
buy him a pair of bifocals
2007-03-22 00:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by nnenna i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAKE UP!
this guy is just using you!
he i presume notices you when he wants sex or intimacy. but not out in public from what i understand from your question.
do the right thing for you and stop seeing him!
or next time he asks for sex just blank him like he does not exist ignore any advances he makes. he should get the message that you are mad as hell. if he does not then he clearly is a selfish little turd (sorry that gives turds a bad name).
anyway move on there are better guys out there for you. i'm sure you get asked out all the time (right?). if so take one of the guys up on there offer next time you get asked out. see if he notices then.
come on after three minutes of a relationship he should be seeing you wherever he looks and missing you when you are not around (if he loves you). however if as i suspect he is just using you then he may not recognise your face just your naked body. time to move on!!
though if you really care (and god knows why you would want to work things out with him is a complete mystery) talk it out with him, tell him how it hurts you that he does not even notice or acknowledge when you are present in the same building as he is. give him dates and times when he blanked you.
may be he does love you but is too bladdered to spot you when you arrive.
only way to know is to speak to him and ask him what the He** he is playing at.
good luck!
remember not all men are as bad as he is for blanking partners / lovers. so be open and ready to date someone new if the opertunity presents itself if you can not resolve this with your guy (though from his actions you are clearly nothing more than a living breathing toy for him to pick up and use at his leisure. No fun for you or your self respect).
2007-03-22 08:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl! if he is playing games with u then its time u tried to understand the rules. i had a boyfriend like this a few years ago when i was in college, it lasted 6months. if you know he is going out to a cetain spot, dress up to the nines so you look and feel smoking hot, grab your girls and hit the town. DO NOT PAY HIM ANY ATTENTION! when he sees how good u look and how much attention your getting from other hot guys he will soon start to realise just how precious you are, and how lucky he is! then just sit back and wait for him to lavish you with the finest of his attention!! good luck lovely xx
2007-03-22 08:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by lexi88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your are in a bar and he dosent notice you then more than likely he has his eye on another and dosent want that other to no he is with you.and food for thought a real man wouldnt be waiting for his girl friend to "show up "at a bar he is in,he would escort her with him to the bar letting everyone know that this is his mate not a menu item.just my thought.
2007-03-22 07:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by imalwayswatchin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT???? he doesnt even notice your there? after 3 years? this happens everywhere u go? honestly this is not ok. im surpised uve been with im for this long.
maybe when hes out with other people and u guys dont have plans he likes to keep it that way, some people just want their own time.
2007-03-22 07:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG...! harsh as this may sound it seems this guy wants nothing to d with you..my advise...do the same to him and if he says something then confront him. Walk into the bar and start chatting to everyone else but him..you'll see..that should grab his attention!
2007-03-22 07:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by Mercia L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you discussed this with him? I can't think of a reason for him not to notice you after three years of dating.
2007-03-22 07:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by Kache 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a simmilar situation myself. Some men are so docile they don't notice what they have 'till it's too late. In my case, Ian is just depressed, so everything can be an effort. xxx
2007-03-22 07:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by Joanne W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't care for your existence, you deserve better than that and I honestly think your boyfriend cannot be that serious about you. Get out of the relationship and look for someone better who will acknowledge your existence.
2007-03-22 07:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by Pearl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop caring about him noticing you and he will start to. You got to read the book "why men love bitches". Then you will be noticed by not just him but other men.
2007-03-22 07:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by asian_cutie_sd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try ignoring him and just getting on and be happy like over the top happy (you may have fun doing this),
and then if he still doesn't notice you move on ? good luck : ) remember be happy.....
2007-03-22 07:59:11 · answer #11 · answered by KA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋