well..my first relationship just ended about a mth again.
The whole story goes like this:
My aunt had cancer and died in Jan 2007. I was upset because I was quite close to my aunt. I took care of her during her last days and she waited for my whole family to rush to the hospital and left after seeing us fot the last time.
Obviously, at this time I wanted my bf to be there for me and by my side but he couldn't be. We even had an argument over this issue and he scolded me 'stupid and unreasonable' at a time when I was still grieving for my aunt. I wanted a break up then but decided to give him another chance because I couldn't bear to give it all up. After giving him a chance, things didn't get any better and finally he broke up with me via a text. I tried to call him to talk about things but he refused to answer my calls.
So is it all my fault that things ended up this way?
2007-03-22 00:42:59 · 16 answers · asked by Grace 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He scolded me stupid and unreasonable because I expected him to be at the funeral. After insulting me, he did regret his actions and explained that he was too tired on that day. Its not the first time I got insulted...
2007-03-22 00:53:14 · update #1
First, let me say I am sorry for your loss, I know how hard that can be. Second, if a man cared for you he would be there for you at a time when your world was falling apart. He obviously can't deal with death and that is a part of life, it is going to happen to all of us someday. All he had to do was show a little compassion and be by your side and just be with you for support. Since he couldn't bring hisself to do that, why should you feel guilty for the break up? You did nothing wrong, that was his doing. If he cared for you and your family he would have defitely been there. He needs to grow up and start thinking of others instead of just himself. If you really care for him, and I think you do, stay away from him for awhile, he needs to grow up. Evidently he felt too ashamed to face you and that is why he texted you to break it off. It is not you sweetie, you didn't do anything wrong, he just needs time to grow up and realize that other people have feelings too, not just him. Maybe in time he will change, take this time to get your life back on track and maybe you will be able to work things out later if you still want too. God Bless!
2007-03-22 14:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Linda W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have left out alot of valuable information here. Yeah, your aunt was sick.....but you never stated what made your boyfriend scold you "stupid and undreasonable"., People just don't say stuff like that without a reason. There has to be some other problem other than your aunt that you aren't talking about. You said things didn't get any better after giving him another chance....were they worse before? Was the aunt situation an isolated incident or not? Doesn't sound like it. Not enough information to place blame.
2007-03-22 07:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by in2one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 people in a relationship and it looks like you both had issues with each other. Not everything needs to be one person's fault or another's. Sometimes it just doesn't work out, end of story.
2007-03-22 07:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by dv4unme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your aunt.
I don't know the details of the argument, so I don't know what part each of you played in it, but it takes two people to have a relationship.
Don't blame yourself. Just move on.
Also, breaking up via a text message is cowardly.
2007-03-22 07:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by acorn922 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first,sorry for the loss of your aunt!!!! sby you love should be there for you...always!!he was inconsiderate of your feelings!!he didn't love you enough to see that you were in sorrow!!!here you have total strangers telling you that they're sorry for your loss,and that loser of a bf simply did not care!!!dump him!!don't call him to talk about things...what do you mean things?!he acted like an *** and is not worth your love!!!
I would NEVER want a person like that back!!
just remember there is always sby that will love you better!!
2007-03-22 08:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by ....FED UP............ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noway...that was very selfish of him and if that is what you have to look forward to then you are better off without him....even though we have been with someone for awhile and are in love..as soon as something of this nature comes up we should feel wonderful that we found out before we married or had children with them.....your a free woman now go enjoy it!!
2007-03-22 07:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by sonialynnl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not your fault. You are better off without him. He could not comfort you when you needed it the most. Can you imagine life with a person that has no compassion.
2007-03-22 07:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by hascht2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Takes two to make it...takes two to break it.
You both are at fault. How immature and insensitive to break up with a text message. lack of respect for your feelings. there is no closure... no emotion.
sounds like he wanted this break up for quite sometime and this was just an excuse ....
2007-03-22 07:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by HopeURLuvinLife2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it isn't your fault. I cannot imagine anyone being so uncaring as he was. I feel that you should consider yourself fortunate that he is no longer a part of your life.
I'm sorry for the loss of your aunt.
Take care.
2007-03-22 07:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by Abby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not your fault. Its his fault for not being there and understanding your situation better. Don't bother about him..im sure he will come back running..if he realised his mistake.
2007-03-22 07:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by WHATEVER!!` 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋