My boyfriend and I have been together off and on for three and a half years. I am 20 and so is he. We have not had the best relationship, and in a lot of people eyes we should have broke up a long time ago. I just found out three days ago that he has been cheating with two other women for the past three months. Should I forgive him?????
2007-03-22 00:35:48 · 21 answers · asked by ashantai2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your still young.. what you have to do is figure out if the good times out weigh the bad..
if you have more bad times and are more miserable in your relationship than you are happy and content.. then perhaps its time to split ways..
as for once a cheater always a cheater i don't believe in that..
2007-03-22 00:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is the easy part. Trusting him again will be the difficult part.
The question is why was he cheating ....with more than one...for three months.....
from the outside looking in...it appears he isnt really interested in an exclusive relationship with you or anyone. An d he knew he had you, that you would still be there no matter what he did. so he did it. It is easy to say forgive himi. It is easy to say, leave him. What isnt easy is actually doing either one. What does your heart say? What does he say?
ONce a cheater always a cheater IS NOT TRUE! it depends on the both of you and what you both expect from the relationship ....
2007-03-22 00:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by HopeURLuvinLife2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's obvious nothing has changed to strengthen the relationship so you'd better just break up with the guy.
Do yourself a favor and find someone who respects you.
Maybe after a while you can forgive him, but I'm sure you're feeling betrayed and hurt right now.
2007-03-22 00:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by acorn922 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi ashantai,
trust is the base of any relationship. since three and a half years a too long period for trust building. so better break the relationship and start a new venture. enjoy the life!
2007-03-22 00:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by amarnath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow !! what doyou think ? 2 other women, 3 months time, sounds like you are every mans dream, they can do whatever they want and you will be there waiting whe their ready to come home, til next time. you are young and nobody deserves that. and how serious can he be if thats the way hes acting. move on allready.
2007-03-22 00:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by clubchaos1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Will you be able to forgive him each time he cheats in the future? If so, forgive him. If not, move on. Just because you love someone does not mean that they love you back in the manner that you need to be loved. If you love yourself in the way that you want/need to be loved, you will attract someone who will love you and not cheat on you.
Best luck.
2007-03-22 00:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by Abby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was one woman maybe i would have forgive him, but you are talking about two of them. Heck no i would not forgive him. He'll just do it over and over again. who knows what he could have caught with those women.
2007-03-22 00:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by CUTIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you feel you could forgive him and trust him again? if yes then stay with him. however it's hard to trust somebody whose already broken your trust what's to stop them from breaking your trust again? it doesn't matter what others say about your relationship your are the one whose in it and it's your opinion that counts if you feel that there is something worth salvaging in your relationship then try.later you can tell yourself you did your best :)
good luck :))
2007-03-22 00:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by zee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well lady you shouldn't forgive him, but you should forget him. if he's cheating now he will be cheating later. he's not ready for a commitment, and life is short. find you someone that will be there for you
2007-03-22 00:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please think of yourself as somebody valuable and precious to be admired and valued by people.That man doen not value you or your relationship so dont waste time find someone better.You are young dont live to regret the rest of your life.
2007-03-22 00:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋