My boyfriend and I live in Rhode Island, he is from Texas. We met while he was in the Navy, and he stayed here for me after getting out. Well we are expecting our first baby at the end of May, his mom and sister are coming to stay with us for a week at the end of may begining of june. Which is fine with me, I know that I wont be expected to care for them, they will probably be a big help to me. But the problem is he told me last night he has friends that want to come visit the 2nd or 3rd week in june. They have 2 kids and want to stay with us! I barely know these people, and dont want to worry about entertaining them with a 2 or three week old baby. I know that he misses his friends and family and hate to tell him no, but I just dont think it's a good idea so close to the baby being born... Any suggestions?
2007-03-22 00:22:25 · 10 answers · asked by lindsey4706 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why don't you tell him this?
Maybe his friends can come and visit when the baby is a little bit older...
Be honest with your boyfriend, he'll understand.
It's clear that he loves you very much, moving away from his family and friends just to be with you...
Good luck!
PS : congratulations for the both of you!
2007-03-22 00:33:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having house guests...even if family...can be very exhausting after having a baby whether it be your first or 3rd or 4th. You've met him more than half way by agreeing to his mom and sister coming and are being very gracious in your attitude and receiving their support. You have every right to draw the line at just family in your home right after the baby is born!! If the friends are very close to him and since he does live so far away from home...you could offer a compromise of a limited # of days or just weekend guests....but in my opinion, he should ask the friends to wait until the end of the summer....that way the baby will be old enough to get out and all of you can enjoy getting to know each other.
2007-03-22 04:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for you - the family is fine and at least you are working to meet the possible in laws
as for the other - let him read this
you dummy You chose to stay in RI, go visit your friends in texas dont bring their butts up there, you need to be making friends in your new home state.
bringing your buds that she does not know is like re-enacting the first gulf war, and she is playing kuwait, espoecially in her condition, thats toooo much stress and why you being a bum and just shacking up? marry the girl dummy. and back to the girl who couldnt say no until after a wedding, if he is obstinate enough to insit his old friends come up, then gather all of your male family members together and reintroduce him to some good ol'fashioned navy BULKHEAD counseling, andf then maybe after having been bounced off the walls for a few hours some sense will come into him and he will learn that u 2 need to start a life together and old single friends are best forgotten
2007-03-22 00:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by chazzn101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend should remember that you're pregnant, and be more considerate of your condition.
Is he expecting you to entertain his guests, cook for them, etc? How long are they staying?
Can the come at some other time? Do they have to stay with you? Maybe they could stay at a hotel, and they could come over for dinner (if your boyfriend cooks), or you could go out together.
You should tell him you think it's a bad idea.
2007-03-22 00:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by acorn922 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello fellow Rhode Islander. I am too from RI. I actually had family stay w/ me for two weeks. It was pretty ruff. My two kids were displaced for 2 weeks. They both gave up their bedrooms. You just having a baby it would be very stressful for you. I would tell them they can come BUT they are NOT staying with you. You need rest and relaxtion. I think its selfish for them to put you through that. Them having kids themselves would not be good to be around your newborn baby. TELL THEM THANKS BUT NO THANKS! GET A HOTEL!
2007-03-22 03:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by Joy Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are these people friends!!!!
What people with kids would ask to stay.
Did he ask or did they.
Sweetie you wont want anyone to stay with you.
Tell him you will be tierd and very stressed.
Your not running a holiday house.
If they do come against your wishes I would just be rude.
You will be sore and very tired my love no time for house guests at all that includes the other relatives.
6 weeks after bub is born is a good time to have house guests.
Would you please tell them no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-22 01:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by addy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A focused visitor stops being a focused visitor while they over stay their welcome. i won't think of somebody getting into my homestead, staying for months, and then not cleansing or doing any homestead artwork. i can comprehend if there's a money venture and you want a place to stay for some months. it is not any problem. yet once you're unlikely to pay then you certainly might desire to make it up some how by using assisting around the homestead, cooking, dishes, issues like that.
2016-11-27 21:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, i dont blame you, has your boyfriend thought about that? Maybe he has and doesnt have the heart to tell them, hum he could just say you are going out of town. Maybe it want be so bad. I hope not. Thats a hard one, i really dont know what to tell you.
2007-03-22 01:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by Lace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him sure they can visit and you'll be sure to not charge them one cent over what they would pay to sleep at a hotel. Of course meals and showers will cost extra.
2007-03-22 00:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sacrifice isnt always comfortable but you have to do that for the ones you love
2007-03-22 00:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by lisa t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋