Cutting need help want to quit?

Question

I am 15. and i cut. I am posting here cause there really is no one I can go to. I want to stop I think. I stoppedonce nd then started again and now my best friend is really mad at me. for starting again. No parents they thought I stopped. and only one knew about me cutting. Is there any advice on how to get stuff that builds inside to realese that stress or anger or what ever it is. Like I said no one to go to and I am a little scarred about it this time. Just cause the last time i quit was really emoitanal for me.

Answer 1

i cut too
and i'm 16
and my parents don't understand me at all

but most of all pray to god that's what i do

i'll add you to my prayers

Answer 2

It is really really hard to quit. I started smoking really hard when I quit cutting. I do know a few really good methods to help you deal though. The method that works best depends on your main focus when cutting.
1. If you focus on the blood, buy a red lipliner. Instead of cutting, use your lipliner to draw whatever you want all over the usual area. Sometimes the visual is enough to offset the need to cut.
2. If you focus on the pain more, get an elastic band and snap it against your wrist every time you feel the need. Sometimes the pain is enough to offset the desire.

Either way, it is really hard. Cutting is equivilent to doing a hardcore drug because of the endorphins it realses every time. It might take a while, but good luck.

PS> Most cutters have been abused sexually at one point in thier life. If this is the case, you need to talk to a psychiatrist about these issues.

Answer 3

i actually went through the EXACT same thing and trust me i know that it IS really hard to quit but i havent cut since january 31 and im very proud of myself.

trusting someone u love will really help and i really doubt that your going to tell your parents about this but you should. or you could talk to your friend a little more about it and if shes your best friend then im sure that when you get angry or upset you can call her or AIM works really well too. just tell her about your problem and usually a good friend will try to calm you down and it usually really helps.

another thing that you can do is to listen to music. i know that when your mad u dont feel like just sitting there but try it does work. listen to your favorite band or singer. something soft that will relax you.

you can also write about how you feel in a diary or draw if your really into art like me. also exercise. if you dont have time then try to do it every so often. exercise also helps with panic attacks if u have those. exercising every now and then will really help to calm you down.
after a while of really focusing on NOT cutting then it will be much easier for you. i know that its a challenge but its one that u really need to make. you dont want those scars forever. i really hope that this helps. best of luck.

Answer 4

Since you want to quit, you should know that cutting yourself is a sign that you need a counselor, a very experienced counselor to help you.

I wouldn't waste another second of your time trying to stop on your own. You are worth far more than that, don't struggle on your own - get a counselor. And you need a very very good counselor who specializes with cutting.

Of course your friend is very mad. You have developed a coping technique that deeply hurts and scares other people; this will continue to impair relationships you have with people until you fix it.

Typically, this is a very serious problem caused by having spent infancy/toddlerhood in daycare or having been sexually molested. Wanting to get better is so important, so wonderful, so courageous.

Get counseling NOW so that you do not find yourself still doing this, but with no more friends, in your 20s.

Good luck.

Answer 5

You cannot control this habit & you know that. If you try & fool yourself that you can then you are setting yourself up for failure. Please get some assistance for this. Do you have a doctor you could go to? Could you ring a counselling service from the phonebook for referral to a mental health worker? You have to accept that you have a mental health problem at this point in your life & get it sorted out. Most people do experience serious mental health problems in their lives & some people find ways of dealing with them on a day to day basis. Basically you have to accept & deal with the problem to overcome it - & it is completly possible for you to do this. Just seek out a counsellor & tell them your life is in danger, your unborn child's life is in danger & you need some help. It's like asking for antibiotics when you have an infection. It will not go away if you ignore it - i can tell you that from experience. Best of luck sweetheart you deserve a break.

Answer 6

From someone who has been there. Find something in your life that is really important to you. And focus on it as much as you can. If you like to write, then do that when you feel like crap to keep your mind off of it. They way that I stopped:
Cutting is about having control over your emotions. Wear a rubberband around your wrist and snap it when you want to cut. If you have to do it 50 times, it is better than cutting. And find somebody that you can talk to openly about how you feel. It really helps to tell someone. Best wishes...and I hope this helps you.

Answer 7

Ok stopping is really hard and I applaud you for doing so. The fact that you started again says that whatever was causing you to cut is still affecting you. Until you can find another way to deal with the situation you're gonna cut.
I was a cutter for two years. I cut myself too deeply once at school and they had to send me to the ER. I was hospitalized for an attempted suicide. The thing is I knew what was bothering me I just couldn't voice it. Even after counseling and meds I still did it.

Stopping is really hard and I applaud you for doing so. The fact that you started again says that whatever was causing you to cut is still affecting you. Until you can find another way to deal with the situation you're gonna cut.


You have to decide that you are truly ready to stop and find another outlet for your anger, stress or whatever is causing you to cut, or else you won't stop. It doesn't matter who you talk to or who gets angry with you. You have to stop for you and no one else.

Answer 8

You should really talk to someone your parents a teacher your best friend someone you should also try maybe writting in a journal everyday that helps to let out some of the emotional stuff that you keep inside. PLEASE just talk to someone they might not understand why you need to cut yourself but they love you and I am sure they want to help you.

Answer 9

ok hon you need to find another way to release the anger and stress. Try running. Everytime you feel the need to cut then run a mile or two and see if you dont feel better. Running releases endorphins which should help you to feel better and not feel like cutting. If this doesnt help then maybe you need a doctors help.

Answer 10

Try writing or drawing. You need something to draw that energy out and relax you. If you write, write a story that reflects your personality. That way you get to know yourself and what exactly is wrong. Once you discover that you will be on your way to recovery.