is it a crush? or do i like him? should i confess?

Question

i have just started college, and i gotten to know a guy.. but it was only after he left my groupings till i noticed him. now, he is in my after college classes but it's only temporary..

i really like him, but i'm uncertain about my feelings. as it might be due to him always being such a gentleman to me, sending me home and carrying my stuffs as we walk to his car. a friend of mine told me that he is attached, and i felt numb.

his birthday is around the conner, and i want to get him a gift. it's either, a shirt, wallet or belt, however, i feel that the gifts might be too personal.. in addition, i wouldn't be around on his birthday.. so should i even bother? i feel the need to tell him my feelings, but would it ruin the friendship? i only have 3weeks more together with him in the classes.. but will be seeing him around college for another year.. he has a lot of girls going for him too.. and i feel like a plain jane..

i thought of telling him with his birthday gift.. good idea??

the fact that he is attached scares me as i cant judge my reaction if he rejects me..

nobody in my college knows that i like him except 4 of my close friends. 1 of them says i'm too cool towards him even when he aknowledges me. i don't treat him like my other close guy friends.. the others think that i'm pulling their leg as it isn't obvious at all..

i don't want to be the 3rd party. and i want to keep the friendship, but whenever we have a conversation(never alone) there's always some degree of akwardness, and i realises it's only with me.. he doesn't seens to have that barrier with others..

any more advice? recently i did a huge favour for him and judging from his sms, i have a feeling that he treats me as only a friend.
sometimes, i feel like he knows, but other times, i feel that he is oblivious.

Answer 1

He sounds interested if he is carrying your books and walking to your car. Friends may do this but it could also be his gentlemanly way of showing interest without flirting.

You are losing him though because you mentioned that he has a lot of girls going for him. Its not about looks if he is interested, he's interested. I'm more attracted to the plain Jane look to be honest.

The reason I say you are losing him is because of the updated info you gave on the sms. He sounded more like a friend in the message you said. Well its a text message and you can't tell emotions very well when its only text. If you are correct and the message comes across in a friendly like way then you are just missing your chance. You said you haven't been open publicly about your feelings and this is what happens when you don't make a move. He passes by to the next person on the list of girls he has following him around.

So TOMORROW is the day you WILL do something about this because your time to woo him is almost over. From what you said he could be moving down that list.

If it doesn't work out no big deal. You don't have class with him anymore. You may see him but it will be in passing. So you will not have to feel embarrassed or anything. Just give him that friendly wave and show you are still interested, if you are still interested.

Hope that helps.

Answer 2

it wouldnt hurt to tell him. maybe you could see if he wants to do something together. concidering his birthday is coming up. tell him you wont be around for the day but wud like to grab something to eat with him to celebrate. give him the gift and see how things go.

Answer 3

Its really no harm tellin him yet its not sure but it can affect ur frendship...So i guess u had better think abt it b4 u do anything !! Best of luck !

Answer 4

well, go for him.....who knows, he might be interested in u,too!!! u can warm yourself up by showing him some interest in his person.....he'll get it.....mix around with him to determine whether your feelings for him are for real or not.....good luck!!

Answer 5

GIRLFRIEND you are in school... plenty of men... don't chase them...
let him catch you ;-)