stressed out?

Question

hi all i would like some help, am 24 have 3 boys and 1 girl, and stressed all the time, been to the doctors been on tables not thing works.....is there any thing you can think off for me to try???? PLEASE HELP

Answer 1

Hi i have 7 kids (3 mine 4 of my partners) i know exactly what your going through. I have answered a few questions on here and the best thing for stress is a bath! Sounds mad i know but trust me you can really loose yourself.

Run a really deep bath with some oils or smellies in. Put some chilling music on and light some candles turn off the light and lie there with your eyes shut, it is heaven!! It is best to do it in an empty house or when the kids are in bed but boy does it chill you out.

Whats stressing you out? Try and look at each of the problems one by one and work through. Each time you solve one problem you will feel so much better - Don't try and multi task it works but can backfire on you.

See if someone can have the kids and do something for yourself, kids are great but can be real hard work. Focusing on them all the time means less time for you. Do something for you even if its meeting up with your mates once a week it gives you a positive and sometihing to look forward too releiving some of that stress. Have a part-time job also can help with that (nothing too major just enough to get you out of the house)

I hope that helps good luck!! x

Answer 2

If all the children are at home with you during the day and evening I can understand how you feel. However, have you ever thought of going along to a play group with them. Our council offer this for a few hours where you can leave them a few times a week for a small fee. Also you should be able to sit with them, this may help as you will note they become occoupied with other children and you can have a chat with other mums.
Is there no grandparents who could perhaps sit with them in the evening for a few hours - maybe you could just escape to your friends for an hour or even night school. There are lots of avenues for you to try to go down, but you have to really make the effort and say to yourself that you can do this". I would not take medication if I could help it so try to conquer this stressed out feeling sooner without the aide of medication. I expect you need to be fully alert for the children anyway.
You must also set definate bed times for the children because then you can have your own quality time. Please try to keep on a positive road you are doing so well already reconizing your situation and wanting to do something about it. Good Luck my dear.

Answer 3

Is there any way what so ever you can take a break once a day? Even if 25 minutes?

I was very stressed out last year (I have 3 kids that are busy)
and I had a part time job outside the home -
I almost lost my dad and my brother/his family moved very far away (after we just moved to be closer to family)

I just tried to do something every day for me.
I know right now with your children you are very stressed.
I wish I could say it gets easier, (it does) with sleep -
perhaps form a play group or do something for yourself.

Take a few deep breaths and don't reinvent the wheel.
Have fun because someday soon those moments will be gone. Try to stay positive and turn to friends, family for support (ask for help).
See your MD if things are worse.

Answer 4

There is a wonderful organisation called Home Start. it is for families with children under 5 who are experiencing problems... be that stress, lack of friends and support,divorce... anything. All the volunteers are mothers or have professional experience with children. They are fantastic. They do not judge. They will help you in anyway they can... time out is probably what you need.
I dont know where u are based but this is the email adress for my local centre and I'm sure they will point you in the right direction:
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Also try going to bed early!!

Answer 5

Dear Donna, you need a baby sitter! You need time out for yourself, not pills. Can you get someone to take care of your children for a few hours a week so that you can just lie on the sofa and do nothing, or go for a walk or to the gym? Being with children all the time is extremely tiring and you are NOT going to feel guilty because you feel stressed and tired as a mother of four. But you need to take care of yourself, too. A good mum is a happy mum is a mum that gets the rest and the breaks she needs.
My best wishes

Answer 6

You are bound to be stressed out being so young and with all those kids. Don't take pills just try and have some time to enjoy your life as well as doing all the work. It will get better

Answer 7

sounds like you need to take time for yourself , i have a few suggestions , i hope they help, i have been doing yoga for the last few months and have fell right in love with it , it helps you center yourself as well as you learn breathing techniques that may be helpfull with the stress, take a walk to clear your mind and at the end of the day maybe light a few candles and have a nice long bubble bath after kids have gone down for the night , good luck :O}

Answer 8

Go to http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com Meditation room; try it out; mantra meditation; repeat the word: "easy", or gaze at a candle in a darkened room for 20 mins, daily, and when stressed. Tai Chi & yoga suits some.

Answer 9

Get some help to take care of the kids.

If you have a husband or boyfriend, have them help you out.

Also try exercise. I know it's more into your day, but exercise relieves stress.

Answer 10

, hug ,,, well, haveing kids will do it to you, but , you need to find a little time for your self,, if you run down, then you no good for the kids,,,, i take it the kids are young,,,, but their little thing you can do,, maybe go to the back yard to your self an, just watch the stars,,, are go to the park,, we all need time to our self,,, maybe, after the kids off to school, a hour more sleep, can help.