CUTTING any advice!!!!?

Question

I am 15. and i cut. I am posting here cause there really is no one I can go to. I want to stop I think. I stoppedonce nd then started again and now my best friend is really mad at me. No parents they thought I stopped. and only one knew about me cutting. Is there any advice on how to get stuff that builds inside to realese that stress or anger or what ever it is. Like I said no one to go to and I am a little scarred about it this time. Just cause the last time i quit was really emoitanal for me.

Answer 1

i had the same problem. i had told my mom i cut, and then she helped me to stop, and something made me start again. only, my relapse was far worse then the first time.
i e-mailed a hot line to get help for stopping, when i realized that i was going to end up killing myself. my parents were looking through my e-mail one day, and found the e-mail i had sent.
they made me strip down to my panties and bra, so they could count the scars, and mark each one with perment marker.
two days later, they had me admitted into a psychiatric hospital.
it was scary as hell to actually quit. knowing that i couldnt do it anymore. i dont know how i would have done it on my own, all i can do, is tell you what they had me do.

i had to make lists. lists of triggers, and situations. lists of options, and people i could call. i had to make a contract.
have one person that you are accountable too. like your bestfrind. have her ask you every morning, if you cut. pretty soon, you will realize that by saying yes, you are letting her down, and you will slowly stop.

it takes time, patience, and a lot of energy.

find an alternative. get play-doh, and when you are stressed, just smash the hell out of it. scribble on paper, run. do something that will help.

dont be scarred. stopping is not scary, what you are doing, is.

i quit, and the last time i cut, was june 6, 2004.

i wish you luck.

Answer 2

This is a Mental Health issue. U are suffering from Self Mutilation or Self Injury. Its been said that this is caused by some childhood trauma, but not always true. Most time it is because kids have not learned how to cope with many adolecent problems and just problems ...PERIOD.
However, many do this because they feel inaducuate or have very low self asteem. The cutting or any self injury over rides the mental hurt . This is something that is also felt shamed by the doer and tends to cover their cuts.
Sadly, that many adolecents and teens have to go through tremedouse pressure (peers ) because of what kids see now a days and thus making them feel inadequate if not fit up to the expectations.
Please go to these site I have listed below. I am not an expert at these but have heard and read about it .
Just remeber that God does not make junk and u are special and right now u are going through a rough time, but if seek help, u will get better.
Love and be strong, jersygirl622001

Answer 3

You have someone to talk to... me my email is [e-mail].

i would consider myself a cutter although i use my nails instead of razors or anything. In order to get control of the cutting you must get control of the issues that make you cut in the first place. Im twenty two and with me, i never even realized that i was depressed until i lost a child in november, i started to scratch myself until i would bleed so that i would just be able to feel relief. Its difficult to explain how cutting or scratching yourself makes you feel better but obviously you know how it feels because you have experienced it. My advice to you is get on an antidepressant, im on zoloft and also ask your doctor if they can refer you to a councilor. I have not tried counciling because right now the medication seems to be working for me, but this may help you and although im on the zoloft i still may go to counciling.
You are cutting yourself because you havent found a better way to let go of your emotions when you get stressed. One way to immediately help this is that when you feel like you want to cut yourself write what you feel down on paper. Journaling is one of the most theraputic activities in the world and it will give you the same exact feelings that cutting does only you wont be causing yourself any physical harm. Your friend is only upset because they care and dont know how to help you. Please email me if you want to talk some more, sharing experiences and advice is also a great help. You are not alone. Good luck

Answer 4

It is good that you have realised that you have a problem and want to get it sorted. Next time you have the urge to cut yourself try holding an icecube in your hand, this has the same painful effect without leaving the scars. You may be cutting yourself due to some emotional stress in your life and you express this by cutting yourself. Good luck with giving up!

Answer 5

When you feel the need to cut; put a rubber band around your wrist, (for a few minutes only!) then stretch and release. Phone 1800 dont cut. See http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych (/psych/injury.html) & http://www.focusas.com/selfinjury.html Visit your doctor about this. Practice for 20 mins daily, the method at http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com Meditation room; try it out; mantra meditation; repeat the word: "easy". It will enable you to find a place in your mind where stress and anger cannot reach, and you can experience calm. Also try the candle method. If your mind drifts, gently return to the task at hand. You can also do this when you feel the need to cut; just repeat either that or something short like: "no cutting", in your mind.

Answer 6

Try strenous exercise. For real. You will feel much better about yourself. Sit on the edge of your bed with your feet on the floor and do situps until you feel it. Lay on your bed and lift both legs together over and over until you feel it. Try to remember that it's the quality of the exercise, not the quantity, so try and not use leverage or momentum, but rahter to be sure you work your muscles each time.
Your anger and stress should be replaced with energy and and a good mood.

Answer 7

Once you have started self injuring it almost becomes a part of you. First of, any freind that gets mad at you for stopping something thats harming you isnt a real friend. Its is going to be emotional to stop, but try going to a guidance counselor, or a therapist, they can help you deal with your emotions in a safe way.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I am sorry you feel the need to do this to yourself...I knew of a few people who did that and the only thing that stopped them is when they seriously hurt themselves. (Hopefully you will be smarter than they were.) You know you are not only hurting yourself, but you are also hurting those who care about you.

I would check out jersygirl's link because she really seems to know what she's talking about...

Answer 10

You need to change your life style a bit: food habits, sleeping habits, reading habits etc., learn to relax, listen to good soft soothing music, do some yoga, breathing exercise: take good care of your health. go swimming, walking, jogging -- learn to love yourself -- and look at others with some regard, try to earn a lot of regards from the world around you (which may not be all that difficult, once you set your heart on that). good luck!