seen daughter after nineteen years twice
but then she dissapeared she gave me phone numbers
but they have been erased feel heart broken
over the years ive tried to see her but
the mother did'nt let me i feel mixed up & dissapointed
can you good people give me some advice if poss
on how to handle this thank you
2007-03-21 23:45:59 · 10 answers · asked by DEAN R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Life is very hard. For me as a Mum I've cried buckets over not seeing my eldest daughter who decided for a reason best known to herself to cut herself off from me and her siblings and relations.
I have written and sent my grandchildren presents and always had them returned. She is obviously very hurt about something..if only I knew what...it may help, if I knew then I could say sorry for what I had done to her.
If you have the chance say sorry well do so but do not push it. Really I can empathise and hindsight is a great thing..... if only
I had not done so and so. However I truly believe that if we know our children are okay then we will just have to content ourselves with that, and get on with living. I find it so hard as you get older though to accept the fact that I will never see my daughter ever again..
2007-03-22 00:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry Dean - what an awful situation for you. Is there any chance grandparents or mutual friends could act as intermediaries? If so, you could simply leave your contact details with them (updated when necessary) plus the message that you respect her privacy but will be happy to hear from her whenever she wants to get in touch. Maybe when she is a little older and wiser she will want to see you again. Meanwhile you may at least get to hear news of her. I wish you luck.
2007-03-21 23:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by mad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is trying to tell you very gently you doesn't want to see you. Over those years you tried to see her, did you pay maintenance to the mother? If you did, she will appreciate that one day, so just make sure she knows where to contact you. Should you move always leave a forwarding address.
2007-03-21 23:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter is 19 years old, she will get in touch with you on her own when she is ready. Just be sure she has access to your whereabouts. I understand your heartbreak, since I haven't seen one of my kids in 15 years. It's painful, but I don't allow his choices to ruin my life. I pray for him and "know" that I'll see him again. Godloveya.
2007-03-21 23:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have never met my father - but i have met his parents and it was odd for me like meeting someone in a pub. you see its real hard to make that connection. do you know her address if so i think the best thing would be to write a letter words on paper mean so much more, just explain everything to her and let her kow how you feel and im sure she will reply. email me if you like.
2007-03-21 23:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by punteroftheworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did they get deleted??? Ask the mobile phone company if they have anything on record still or maybe you have an old phone bill with her number on. Good luck!!
2007-03-22 12:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
with a bit of luck she may come again,if you have any idea of the area she lives in try the electoral roll at your main library. good hunting.Sad how people lose contact with their children.
2007-03-22 09:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is to go and ask her mother again and again and trust me she will let you see your daughter you know why because she'll see you going to her house to see your daughter and she will feel sorry for you and then she can let see your daughter everyday if you want to.
2007-03-22 00:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by Meriem M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, here in Philippines there is a show entitled NAGMAMAHAL KAPAMILYA, which helps family to see each other.. No matter what place in the world you live!!!!
2007-03-21 23:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by daisy_1278 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a dog
2007-03-22 00:07:30 · answer #10 · answered by B rabit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋