2007-03-21 23:16:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Very good question.
Read "The Art of Kindness" great book that will show you that kindness can show great strength, and bring huge rewards.
Kindness at times can be very demanding, people put it down because of fear or ignorance.To show kindness shows consideration, you consider if the situation requires a kind response and respond accordingly.It takes brains!
If you are fearfull or lack confidence in your own ability to take a considered appraisal of a situation and respond in the most appropriate (and kind) way it is far easier to cop out with a non commital(unkind, thoughtless,unconsidered )response.
If you display ignorance of the benefits of kindness(including you!) rather than broadcast your ignorance it is less embarrasing to be unkind than look weak.
My experience is that kindness brings high esteem, wealth,respect,inner calm and feels a rewarding experience.
Kindness is an investment in yourself and all around you.
2007-03-22 00:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your question is interesting! But if you think about it, in the business world, being thought of as weak can be a good thing. Then people underestimate your power and knowledge and you can gain on them. so being kind can be an asset!
Otherwise, if you are talking about in relationships, then you need to find new women. Some women think that "bad boys" are fun and thrilling! But there are plenty of women out htere would would love to find a kind man! A man that can know the difference and the fine line between being kind and becoming weak! Because it can be a very fine line, you just have to figure out how far is to far. Every woman wants a man who is nice, but still knows when to take command!
2007-03-23 20:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is an excellent question to which there is no correct answer. Different people with differing personalities take kindness to mean weakness for numerous reasons.
For one, they may think it's a "dog-eat-dog" world and that to survive you've got to be mean. A natural selection concept if you will.
Second of all, I think it relays their inner struggle- perhaps they didn't have a happy childhood or had a scarring experience that made their heart's hard to the world and to sympathy and kindness.
That's the best I have for you and I hope that you find a suitable answer. =)
2007-03-27 17:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by LusciousLucius 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is because those you have a "true kind heart" always believe and see only the best in everyone. We do not generally think like those who have a hidden agenda and purposely go out of their way to "use or hurt" others.
The world is not like it was 50-60 years ago when our parents or grandparents grew up. In today's society, you have to think everyone who is nice to you has a hidden agenda. You have to questions other peoples motives and ask yourself, "why are they being nice to me" or " why do they want to be my friend"?
The reason people think kindness is a weakness is in most cases than not, you get screwed in some shape or form. And others think you are weak because you allowed it to happen.
2007-03-29 15:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by Cricket 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think kindness is a great quality. but people do seem to try to run over or use kind people. but i feel sorry for those who think that way ,because being kind bring joy to your heart and anyway it takes a strong person to be kind ,because you always have your heart out there. all those mean people are truly weak they are afraid of getting hurt emotionally financially or fiscally.
2007-03-29 17:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by sandy.d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kindness is deffenitately not a weakness. It is one of the fruits of the spirit and normally people who are kind hearted are in fact spiritually very strong. Meakness have also been considered as a weakness. Noooo when you are kind and meak that is when you are a giant and very strong.
2007-03-22 00:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by INCOGNITO 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "weakness"?there is many situastion and cases which need us help.Thus, the pool student can't continous their study if the goverment and private sector didn't offer studies loan for them.The public hospitals and old folks house can't be build up if there is less supporting by private sector and public sector together aims on benefit and merit goods for community by tax prayer's money.
2007-03-26 14:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by ng h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kindness is good. Kindness to the point of not ever standing up for yourself or being a doormat is weakness. It depends on what kind of "kindness" you're referring to. Often when others refer to someone as kind, that's a good thing, but when someone refers to themself as kind, it's an excuse for being weak.
2007-03-22 10:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by pacoferdinand 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Showing kindness to someone else means you are putting off your own needs, for the moment, and meeting the needs of others. When people show kindness they are allowing themselves to be emotionally vulnerable.
Our world sees looking out for oneself as strength and looking out for someone else as weakness. To those who only look out for themselves, people who show kindness to others appear weak.
2007-03-28 01:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by SAB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are just "user-friendly".
i guess people who say that being kind is weak were victims of these "user-friendly's" before. traumatized.
shame on those people who take advantage of the kindness of others...
2007-03-29 05:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by d6camello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋