My boy friend slept with another gil, he came back to me to confers, He said he did'nt mean to, it all a mistake, then I forgave him but now I am scared that he might take an advantage of me. well I love him and I kno he also love me, but I am scared..tell me what to do guyz
2007-03-21 22:31:09 · 17 answers · asked by Thandoh A 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Forgive him once, everyone makes a mistake of some sort. Don't be a door mat and get some sort of pay back, presents etc... make him pay. Don't take it twice if he does it again he don't want or deserve your love.
2007-03-21 22:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by Judas. S. Burroughs. 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I you did not find out by yourself, and he came to you confessing of his own accord, I'd say he is not taking advantage of you, at least he has the will and the courage to answer for his mistake. I would count this as a strong trait of him. People make mistakes. But in many cases, the effect of mistakes is doubled when they lie about it. He did not, it seems. Therefore I think you were right to forgive him (this one time).
2007-03-22 05:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by NaturalBornKieler 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is great that you have forgiven him ...
but the old saying is true
it is easier to forgive than forget
it takes a long time to get that trust back
but you must work on that
we all make mistakes , and he made his and he confessed it
that has to be commended
and I would do this only once... once is a mistake
the only thing I can suggest ( through experience ) is to give yourself some time to heal from this , dont be angry at yourself for being insecure right now
and when thoughts about him doing this again come to your head , you had to remind yourself that it was your choice to take him back and with that it is your choice to trust him again
in time this will get easier
I really wish you well , this is not an easy thing to get over
2007-03-22 05:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by Peace 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
An old saying
"A once snapped thread always has a knot in it"
You can not be the same again - your relationship I mean.
Better part ways before it hurts the future (kids)
2007-03-22 05:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by madhatter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This belongs in the singles and dating section, also, he is taking advantage of you and your love for him, how can you be sure if he has only cheated on you once? how do you know he won't do it again? and are you sure he ain't doing it now? H
Get some self dignity and dump his @ss, you deserve better
2007-03-22 05:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cannot sleep with some-one by mistake,he was found out & is trying to wriggle out of responsibility.He will do it again,believe me.You would be foolish to trust the word of a cheat.
2007-03-22 05:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by michael k 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He shouldn't have made the mistake in the first place. He disrespected you and now he is walking all over you. There are many guys out there who would treat you better; let one find you!
2007-03-22 07:07:08 · answer #7 · answered by Wild About Harry 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes, it was all a big mistake. he didnt realize that his member was hard, and it was an accident when i put it in a tight place.
i can see how someone would mistake sex for.... for what! your really going to accept a pathetic excuse like that? apparently your boyfriend isnt smart enough to come up with a better excuse than, it was a mistake. and im sorry to say it, but you dont sound much smarter for believing him.
2007-03-22 05:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by jljljljljljljljljljl 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't seem like the thing you could call a mistake to me. What did he do, trip and fall right into her?
Be careful if he did it once he most likely do it again if the opportunity presents itself
2007-03-22 05:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by Kye H 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Dear Friend,
Jesus taught us a parable on this very subject:
The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant
21Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?"
22Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.[f]
23"Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand talents[g] was brought to him. 25Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.
26"The servant fell on his knees before him. 'Be patient with me,' he begged, 'and I will pay back everything.' 27The servant's master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.
28"But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii.[h] He grabbed him and began to choke him. 'Pay back what you owe me!' he demanded.
29"His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, 'Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.'
30"But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. 31When the other servants saw what had happened, they were greatly distressed and went and told their master everything that had happened.
32"Then the master called the servant in. 'You wicked servant,' he said, 'I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. 33Shouldn't you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?' 34In anger his master turned him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.
35"This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart."
Think of the amount that God has forgiven you, To be worthy of this we must forgive everbody who wrongs us, For if we let anger take a foothold then we are opening the door for Satan.
I know it is difficult to forgive, after all we are all taken advantage of at some stage, but we must forgive our brothers and sisters from the heart no matter what. If you are having trouble forgiving then try asking God for help in prayer.
God Bless You
2007-03-22 05:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by ianptitchener 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋