What happens if the reason that he fell out of love with you because you weren't yourself or the person he did fall in love with in the first place. I wasn't myself for the last year (we were living together this year) of a 3 year relationship because of me being scared of losing him. I did extreme measures to make him happy, like being available to him all the time, letting him do what he wants avoiding any serious conflict (basicly losing my independence and identity). The reason why i did this was because he had committment issues in the past with me which made me think that if did everything to make him happy i won't lose him, but then he dumps me teliing me that he wasn't happy in the last couple of months and doesn't feel the same way by doesn't know why. I still love him and I regret in what I have done (in my case in losing myself first and then second, losing him)
2007-03-21 21:13:49 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's been 3 months ever since we broke up, i have not made any contact with him, I have boosted my self esteem and independence, i travelled arond europe I moved in with my best girlfriend, started a new job, and i started dating, i feel happy about myself, but i still love him, these feelings haven't changed. Within these three months I have realised that I don't NEED him in my life to be happy, so I have become more independant and more confident, but I still desire him, I want him, is that so wrong.
2007-03-21 21:14:02 · update #1
wow! that was inetersting...now you want him after all the things he has put you through? no offense but if a relationship is hard work and one person trying to please another by losing their identity that was not a good relationship. my best advice is to remember the good memories you cherished and shared with this special somebody at a certain time in your life...you obviously have moved on with your life and did a 180 and turned your life around which i applaud you for doing! and for the committment issues, that is a bunch of bull to me!my ex is the same way and now he has lost a great person..remember: you will forgive what he has done to you but never forget! and also as famous Mark Twain has said "we've had the best of times, we've had the worst of times". as i look at your story he was in your life for some purpose for some time and people come and go out of our lives therefore you should cherish the present and not dwell on the past!
2007-03-21 21:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow you sound like me
it is not your fault effort in relationships are 50/50 so you put all of yourself and he put none
you just need to breathe and take time to find yourself
2007-03-21 21:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing.. its just he found another person better than you.
2007-03-21 21:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋