HELP ... i had an argument with bf because i found out he use to watch porn first 5 months from meeting him?

Question

do u think i over reacted ?

Answer 1

Yes, you over reacted.

Some people have an issue with porn, and some don't. You obviously have a issue.

He liked it, but gave it up. Why? Did he grow out of it, or did your relationship grow to the point where he no longer needed it?

Answer 2

What was your argument based on?

Think about it this way: did the two of you ever sit down and openly talk about rules regarding porn in your relationship?

If you didn't, then you have no reason to be angry. There is nothing that says that boyfriends can't look at porn- lots of women are fine with that and lots of couples enjoy doing it together. So if you have no precedent, you certainly have no right to get mad.

If the two of you had decided to not look at porn, however, then you were perfectly within your limits to be angry.

Hope that helps.

Answer 3

You don't say how old you are or what kind of port it was, I think those are important.

If the porn was way over-the-top gross stuff then that could mean he has issues, but in my opinion simple sex or nudes don't mean there's a problem, especially for young men (been there). You imply he gave it up - that's a good sign.

In the absence of really, really bad behavior, I tend to respect people that make good choices and not hold their past against them if they've fixed it. I don't expect anyone to be perfect because I am not myself, I do however expect people to want to be better. Only you know if that makes sense to you or fits your situation. Hope this helps.