why does a woman lose all her respect after she's been raped??

Answer 1

Every woman responds differently, but there are some common responses and answers. First of all, she has been violated against her will. This is not something that only women feel. A man who is assaulted feels the same kind of emotion, but not to the same extent. It's a matter of degree. The problem with rape is that there is a social stigma...real or perceived...attached to the event. Many women feel that other people think she was "asking for it" or that she is a slut after she is violated. While that is a ridiculous thought, unfortunately in some cultures there is some truth to how other people think of a rape victim. Most rape victims spend hours taking a shower in the hope of "cleansing" themselves of their sin. I cant tell you how traumatic this is.

Outside of the physical trauma of rape is the way other people perceive the victim. The fact that this question is asked...and it is all the time...shows that rape victims have to deal with being suspect. If people didnt question rape victims or have some kind of preconception about their character, there would be less of a stigma attached to the crime, and perhaps it would be reported more often, and rapists would be held accountable more often. Unfortunately, rape victims often think they did something wrong, or are unwilling to face the consequences of reporting the incident. So they internalize the crime, and often blame themselves. They question what they were wearing. How they presented themselves. And consider themselves responsible. It's a really sad thing to see.

Until society changes the response to rape victims, this will continue. To be sure, rape victims will always have questions about themselves. I suppose it's only natural, but it isnt right. But we need to support victims of rape and make it clear that we understand that they are victims who need our support. And I dont know if that will ever happen.

Answer 2

I wouldn't say that woman loose respect i would say that they looses trust in men and in most of the cases they feel like they are to blame for what happened to them that is why so many woman does not report rapes even though they are not responsible, no woman would go out and ask to be raped and most people would make a woman feel like she asked for it either by the way she dressed or the way she acted. Men should know when a no means no

Answer 3

she loses respect because she is seen to be grose. A woman that hasn'tslept with a man is pure and is said to be "more expensive" but a woman that has slept is without value. A man just thinks they could sleep and not get accused of anything. A raped woman is even worse.

Answer 4

Because, for some insane reason, in our/most society(s) people blame the woman, in a seemingly subconscious or instinctual way, as if she willingly engaged in or enjoyed what happened (and we all know women aren't really supposed to enjoy sex in any capacity, right?). Women often take responsibility for what happened as well and they feel "dirty", "tainted", etc. There is either a "good" woman (pure, the Madonna) or a "bad" woman (slutty, the Whore) and women are forcibly turned into the Whore through this act. However, if someone were to stick something into your body, invading you in an incomprehensible way, rendering you helpless, you'd have some weird reactions too.

Answer 5

I don't think it's a matter of self respect...its feeling ur a victim.
Rape is someone forcing themself on u. There must be
consentual sex between the 2 people. Rape is all about
power and control for the perp. Thus taking away the victims
power and leaves them feeling at loss of control....Perps get
off on humiliating others....its not just sex. The victim has to
take back their own power...and not let it ruin their lives. And
counseling is very important, to help the victim cope...

Answer 6

Not respect, that would imply she did something wrong. Usually trust is what a woman loses. Trust towards everyone else.

Answer 7

Everything that she was before she was raped has been violated and subjected to the worst kind of violence you can imagine. It takes time, a lot of time before she can get back to where she was if that far.

Answer 8

dam man give her a break its not like the girl was out being a slut thats no respect a rape makes you feel mistrusting,how would you feel if some guy or guys got you

Answer 9

because she was forced.it is against her will. it is demeaning to a woman to be forced into sex and can't do anything about it. because it should have been the most intimate act and her consent should have been given. most rape victims blame themselves for what happened. it shouldn't be the case. it was not their fault.

Answer 10

it depends on the woman. i was raped by my uncle and i still have a hard time with it. it takes time