I don't know how to get threw this?

Question

Some people will know how my relationship started because of a previous question. My boyfreinds dead, he proposed to me on sunday and on monday got hit by a bus and died. i know it will seem strange going on answers with this but im desperate. i have even thort about suicide. how can i let him go?

He did not die a virgin and if you looked at the other question you would know that

Answer 1

its okay to be sad, to be angry, or hurt.. but please whatever you do dont even think about suicide.. im sure he wouldnt want that.. a friend of mine commited suicide.. and to this day noone knows why.. and we all miss him everday that he is gone.. please talk to someone.. suicide isnt the way to go.. and all these people here im sure agree with me.. its going to take time but you will never forget him and maybe never be over him.. but in time.. you will feel better.. and be able to move on.. Best of luck to you
hugs!

Answer 2

it seems very scary and my condolences for ur loss. there are things that happen in life such as losing someone and breaking up with someone or divorcing someone. if u think abt it religiously it might be a sign from god that maybe it wasn't meant to be. for example if you go thru a lot of relationships it's because god wants you to take chances on different love so u can be prepared someday for ur real love. there are things we can't explain but it's those things that make us unique. just be thankful for what you "had" and make that a part of ur life's "past". Be proud that there was someone that proposed to you. You could've said no and if he died you'd feel that u shoul've said yes coz u "regret" not giving him a chance. If you would've said yes and he died it will really be the same. take the moments and the times u spent together as a lesson, a lesson learned for the next relationship u will have. it can't hurt to cry or say that u miss him so do it. don't hurt urself or attempt to do anything to hurt urself. just be thankful for life and embrace life and for everything thats in it. including the people out there that could give you help. u should really get help if u know it becomes serious. but seriously, there are flowers, there is sunshine, there is food! so many beautiful things in life such us the sunsets or romantic cruises, embrace life! learn to love life, be happy! move on!

Answer 3

I haven't seen any previous questions you have left but i must say that i have been touched by this one. My first opinion would be to seek counselling of some description maybe through your doctor. But more importantly, as the saying goes, its better to have loved and lost than to have neever loved! you and your late boyfriend must have had something special. You need tobe strong i know its hard but he would not want you to be upset and he would not want you too be thinking or even commit suicide. Suicide is a losers way out. sorry to be so harsh but it is true. Your late boyfriend more than likely said to you when you were together that he wants you to be happy and that is what you must do. Im not saying you should give it up completely just be strong. My thoughts are with you.

Answer 4

my sympathies... and my prayers... first of all, u are grieving and entertaining the thought of death seems the fast and easy way to end the pain... i sense that u are blaming him or blaming yourself for being in such a relationship, but u don't have to... i cannot ever experience what u are going through... but when my father died a few years ago, i remember i could not emotionally move and the thing that helped me the most was preparing his burial. i knew my mother could not, my brother could not, but i wanted to do something right to help ease the pain... i also wrote out a long speech that reflected both the bad and great times with my father and sent copies to good friends of mine and that helped the process of saying goodbye... but what u may need to do is to either be proactive and work with time and being busy or by seeking help yourself... people will always be there if u just ask... these are the things i can suggest.... to give help or to seek help... my deepest prayers to u...

Answer 5

You do not have to let him go. You have memories and you should hold on to them. I lost my whole family so I do know how desperate you are. As I have said before in answering previous questions you take it one day at a time. Please talk to someone there is a lot of help available, and I promise it will get better, it will never go away, you will always have those memories but the pain will ease.

Answer 6

You are grieving which is a perfectly natural process, and you must go through it. It is very hard, and I am so sorry for you.
It is a cliche I know, but time does heal, although you will never forget, the memory will dim in time. If you feel so alone, there are a lot of people who can help you. Don't be afraid to seek that help.

Answer 7

write him a letter, saying everything you want to say to him and can't because he's gone. fold it up and put it behind his picture in a frame. it will give your mind some ease. maybe look into getting some grief counselling. death is a huge loss and there's nothing wrong with getting a little assistance to get through it, especially since you have thoughts of suicide. if you want to do it alone, journal, cry, feel your feelings, don't block them out. Let it all out, and you will set him free in your mind. but suicidal feelings are very serious, and i would recommend seeing a professional, it may feel like the end now, but all wounds heal in time, with the right amount of attention.

Answer 8

You need to give yourself time to get used to the idea that he has gone, you can do this by grieving only when you have truly grieved will you be able to think about moving on.
Suicide isn't the answer just a knee-jerk reaction to a very difficult situation, think about all your family and friends that would miss you, they will help you through these truly difficult times. If you feel yourself going under, go and visit your doctor who should be able to help you through the dark times. Think about this 'it is always darkest before the dawn.'
Things will get better in time this I can promise you the rest is up to you, my sincerest sympathy keep your chin up, I wish I could take away your pain.

Answer 9

Hi
Number one: If you have thought of suicide, contact the Samaritans. There is always someone there to talk to in your crisis moments. You can also contact them via email on [e-mail], although this is not immediate.

When you feel ready, see if you can find a TAT or EFT practitioner in your area. TAT (Tapas Acupressure Technique) is amazing for relief from trauma. Google 'TAT practitioner' and your postcode.
EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is also brilliant, but I would recommend TAT in first instance.
Note: Neither of these therapies has been known to cause side effects, BUT YOU MUST continue taking prescribed medication, and continue to see your medical practitioner if you have one.

I am certain you can pull through this with love and support of family/friends.

Walk with light, IP

Answer 10

So sorry to hear about this. My deepest sympathy. I could on for an hour expressing sorrow but I will get to the point. The only thing you can do for him right now is pray for his soul. If you were to commit suicide, you would do him a disservice as that would be one less person to pray for him.
Keep your chin up and remember that time heals all. Try not to be alone. Deepest Sympathy.

Answer 11

Hello, you will get through this, and you have to be strong. Wherever your boyfriend is right now, he won't be happy to see you in such a desperate situation as to commit suicide. I know that you're hurting right now, and probably even blaming God for taking him away prematurely. Don't put God in that light and push Him away. Just cry away, and you'll get over it in time. I promise you that. It's not the end of the world, and there are better things in store for you. Just you wait and see.