My hubby and I will be celebrating our 10 year anniversary in 3/2008. We'd like to renew our vows to reaffirm our love and commitment to each other. We seperated for a few years and have reconciled and we are both more mature and much happier this time around. We got married very, very young and think that our 10 year anniversary would be a great time to reaffirm our feelings and commitment to each other with our children and our family. I'd like to start planning as soon as possible (I probably already should have started), but I'm not really sure what to do or how to do it. I don't know what is acceptable and not. I know it's not our first wedding, so it will be a little different because we are already legally married, but what is proper etiquette here? Thanks for any advice!
2007-03-21 20:09:18 · 6 answers · asked by Stephanie M 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First of all, congratulations for enduring the storms of marriage. Ten years is truly a mile-stone and who among us hasn't suffered a few marital set-backs when the reality of life and kids threatens to put an emotional wedge between us? A renewal of your vows is a wonderful way to symbolize a fresh start!
It's completely up to you whether you want a formal or informal event. There are no rules of etiquette that would keep you from having an elaborate, formal event if you chose to, or a simple backyard bar-b-que with friends and family.
The etiquette involved in a vow-renewal is the same as all wedding etiqutte. The setting will help you determine what type of dress is appropriate as well as whether or not the ceremony will be formal or informal. Formal invitations should be sent, regardless of how many guests you are inviting (unless of course it's just you, your husband and your children).
The planning is exactly the same as a wedding, except you don't need attendants and you obviously don't need to obtain a marriage license. You might choose to let your children be part of the ceremony and include them in your vows since they are part of the commitment between you and your husband.
I went to a wedding that involved some children from a previous marriage. It was so beautiful when the bride and groom wrote vows to the children and included them in the ceremony.
I think the most important thing I would like to convey to you is that you don't have any restrictions on what is appropriate as long as you follow the same etiquette that governs all weddings regardless of whether they are formal or informal.
I'm attaching a little vow-renewal information to help you!
I wish you many more blissful years with your husband!
2007-03-25 19:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by FormerGiGi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be informal or formal. The decision is yours. Again, it's your day. How many people do you want there? Think about that and a location first. Is the location a place you need to reserve? Or is there a place, like an outdoor park or gardens that doesn't cost anything? Otherwise, the only things you would need to do in advance would be invitations and saving back some money and securing the time of someone to officiate. Everything else can be done closer to the time. Unless you want it to be formal, then you need to think as far ahead as possible for attire, catering, location, etc.
I've attended many renewal cermonies that were informal but still elegant and nice with business casual attire, outdoor setting and something like a BBQ or pot luck dinner. Many of the brides wore corsages instead of carrying a bouquet or only held one flower with a pretty ribbon around it.
2007-03-22 07:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by angelpoet04 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not much planning involved, don't worry! For a vow renewal, you would just have a simple ceremony or blessing at your church or elsewhere, then have family and close friends to your home for dinner. Just a great time for family to get together. You don't have to send formal invites, but you could send casual-type ones if you wanted to. Otherwise, just call people. Buy a pretty new dress, and have fun!
2007-03-22 01:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure where you live but a great fun place to go would be Las Vegas you can renew your vows gamble walk the strip... You can take family friends and just have a blast.... go onto vegas.com or google weddings in vegas... I think it would be fun... but whatever you do i'm sure it will be great bacause you will be with the person you love....good luck and I hope you have fun...
2007-03-22 04:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i think it a good thing that you wont to renewing your wedding vows i have a nice who did her 10 years wedding vows and she wore white and she was very perry to
2007-03-21 20:19:16 · answer #5 · answered by EVA J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
something and somewhere that is special to each of you...wear something meaningful...have the kids be part of the ceremony and have delicious food and a special invitation maybe home made
2007-03-21 20:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by Olive 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋