i m engaged from last 1 year n now soon getting married. in this stage we r not not getting along well , he is always aggressive and have probls in my every thing , should i break up now or wait 4 the better times. he gets angry fro one thing or another , n suddenly changes n says he loves me. i m confused . the two images of him r too different , i try to b patient but i n scared that wat if he continues this after marrieage . i lov him too but cant ruin my life . pls help me , to come up wid right decesion.
2007-03-21 20:02:50 · 15 answers · asked by vanice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if i m goin to marry , i have to marry him aftter 2 months as i cant delay my marriage . all is set .
2007-03-21 23:49:26 · update #1
U BETTER FINISH WITH THIS GUY, IN SO EARLY STAGE
U R FACING SO MUCH TENSION .DON'T RUIN U R LIFE .BETTER RE-THINK ,A SINCERE ADVICE.
2007-03-21 20:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by dulla99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deja Vu
You just sound like that girl that got blown and burned alive by her psycho boyfriend the last week.
http://news.bostonherald.com/localRegional/view.bg?articleid=188624
http://wbztv.com/topstories/local_story_074110949.html
http://imedinews.ge/en/news_read/26999
People never change and love don't change people; that only works on the movies. If in this stage and about to get married you both are not getting along, then this is the time to call off the wedding becasue thing wont get any better after marriage; and if you have kids with him you will have this spycho in your life FOREVER; If you are in doubts it means that you don't love him anymore, and is all his fault, not yours. Dump that loser before your life becomes a living hell.
2007-03-22 03:41:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you're second guessing yourself with good reason.... have u considered trying to take a time-out? in doing so, u do have to return the ring if he gave u one and i'm uncertain as to the reasons for his swinging personality/moods. let him finish school and let him do his job search... maybe when he is in the swing of things then and not having so much stress from school and such maybe u two can get together or maybe u realize there is more out there for u.. and if he guilts u into all that u folks have planned for the wedding, then that ain't love... but if he does so willingly with a bit of sadness in his voice, then maybe he might be worth waiting for until all is well and done... distance and time will tell all... my prayers be with u.... and him, too...
2007-03-22 03:14:34 · answer #3 · answered by ogg08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up, it's easier than a divorce. If you are on YA looking for advice on your relationship, you already know in your heart what the right thing to do is. You are already unhappy with him, why would you consider marrying someone that doesn't make you happy?
2007-03-22 03:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by kat_sista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Solution to your problem is,
Wait till he not complete his education and get the job somewhere. As by that time, you both would be able to understand each other in better manner. And he may also be able to get rid of his unstable behaviour.
2007-03-22 03:12:29 · answer #5 · answered by Ajeet S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear....
U should dicuss abt all these issues with him...
& then see .. What he reply ??
If u feel that He is right somewhere...
Then Go ahead...
& If u feel What all is happening is just disgusting..... then think twice Consult with your Family / Friends....
& ask once more time to Him to change his this kind of rude behaviour......
We all can just advise you BUT the final decision will be taken by you only.........
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!
Just try to have "good converstion" with him & I hope everything will be alright..........
Tell him Straigh forward what ever you dislike THIs will really help you.....
:-)) BE HAPPY !!!!!!!!!
2007-03-22 04:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be bipolar. If it's already not looking good what makes you think it can get better in the future? Does he have a strong willingness to get things done. I may not know him as well as you do, so you should think about that one.
2007-03-22 03:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by cashew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through something similar. I hate when they are quick to get angry and make you feel like the worst person in the world :(
2007-03-22 03:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by Miranda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please post phone the wedding. It is hard enough to make a marriage work when both of you are on the same page. I don't think he has even opened the book yet.
2007-03-22 03:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by starflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Decide & Do it"
Whatever you wrote makes me feel that you both are not compatible. So earlier the better.
be ready for little discussion that you will have, if you make this decision.
But i would suggest dont ruin his and yours life
2007-03-22 03:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by CoolestnHotest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋