im, 25 but my,My Mom is 68 years old, she devoted her whole life to her sister and doing everything for her 3 sons.. being extra nice to them.. Her sister is a control freak, if you dont do as she tells you she gets very angry... She used to call my Mom every week saying catty and mean things to her, and telling her how shes weird because my father died 3 years ago and she should get a boyfriend and stop whiing,,--stuff like that...
my Mom she stopped doing everything her sister wants,,
Also her sisters 3 sons started bullying my Mom, calling her and asking questions like,, What street do i work on?,,demanding they be invited to our house and slamming the phone when told no..
then my 50 yr old cousins wife left a message for my Mom saying "how dare you cut us off and not cal my husband for his birthday and not invite him to your house, hes hurt, and we dont want a response from you" My mom didnt call back, no one ever contacted us in the family again, do i call them now?
2007-03-21 19:59:39 · 10 answers · asked by tbo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why would you want to be involved with that sort of drama?
Stand by your mum sweetie, see how quick your relatives can turn?Do you want to waste years doing what they say or face their ****?You can bet your bippys that the first thing they will want you to do is drop your Mum! Dont waste your time on them! Give your time to your mum...mines dead, and i wish i had your choice!
2007-03-21 21:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you should bother calling back these ungrateful people. Your mum sounds like a wonderful, kind lady. She has been through alot. Losing your dad would have been hard for you, but for her it was her husband, her main support person to help her deal with the ugly side of extended families. If you do start to have contact with your cousins, aunt etc... then you would be in an uncomfortable position where you would most likely need to keep secrets from your mother. This would also give the cousins leverage to manipulate you and make it all even harder again. Your mother seems to deserve some respect, and some support in her decisions.
2007-03-22 03:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by lozzy_x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would call them. You have a right to know what is going on, and if they are rude to you, don't just take it. Tell them how you feel too. Tell them how rude it is to cut your mother, a family member, off.
As far as the birthday thing....they need to deal with it. If your mom forgot to call, that is no big deal at all. People forget family members' birthdays all the time; it is 100% normal to accidentally forget.
I hope things go well for you. If they refuse to communicate even after you have called them, I think you should stop associating with them, don't worry about it, and move on. You and your mom deserve to only associate with people that will respect you.
2007-03-22 03:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For what purpose would you call them? They don't seem worth the trouble to me and if your mom is fine with not talking with them anymore you should go with that. If you're wanting to call just so you can tell them off then that's just a waste of time and would only make the situation worse. Let it Go.
2007-03-22 04:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by MI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mother is use to being used by her family. By not communicating with them, she's simply taking her power back. Let her work it out. Contact your family if you want to, but no "bad mouthing" your mother; make that clear! Let your mom deal with this her own way. Godloveya.
2007-03-22 07:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no no - they were using your mother and when she finally decided she had had enough, they got angry and petty. She sounds like she is better off without them. If you and your siblings still treat her with love and respect then she has more wealth then all of her family combined.
2007-03-22 04:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by CLEVER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF they hurt your mother than I would not. They apparently treated your mother like crap and you calling them and making nice might seem to her like you are abandoning her. If you really want to talk to them(though I can't see why, they seem rather mean) I would tell your mother first that you are going to call them. It is better that she hears it from you. Trying to hide it might make her feel like you are siding with them
2007-03-22 03:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by lilly j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt it would probably hurt your mother in a way that you diddnt intend.. i understand that you just want to make things right for everyone involved... but its between ur mother and the rest of the family....
2007-03-22 09:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lindsey richardson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally up to you. If you are comfortable with the idea of calling her up, then call her. If not, just let the matter rest.
2007-03-22 03:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-03-22 03:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋