I just got back home after being out of town for a month and a half. I wanted to spend the night with a close friend with whom I've slept a few times. We've never called each other gf/bf because we both know our age difference and being at different places in life would keep us from ever having anything long-term. We've even talked about this before and I've been very honest. Yet, we're still close and attracted. Anyway, she wanted to take me out to eat when I got back, but I told her that if we met, I knew I'd want to sleep with her. She has the same strong feelings, yet when I was blunt with her about my desires she was turned off. It was like she would rather me have gone on with the dinner invite and then we end up in bed together without planning on that happening. We both knew what would happen, yet my saying it out loud that I wanted to sleep with her turned her off.
2007-03-21 19:42:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Age doesn't matter, maturity does.
Breakfast in bed, seriously speaking, before one goes assuming while the other goes pretending which then goes complicating up issues and things, considering to communicate both your real emotions is best to make on air to avoid cruel matter of courses in the end.
However uhm, you could have done the confrontations in a different way. Spontaneous and modesty, two factors you might want to associate your character with, boy.
But since words have already been uttered, suggest to face the past without regret, and handle your present with confidence. If you think you can fix the mess without furtherly humiliating yourself, u might as well as try harder clarifyin the offense. If not, then remain silent, damaged reputation remains no further than just as being how it is right then.
Next time robinhood learn choosing your words, and be careful everytime you speak - determines you an appropriate man from just being a man.
2007-03-21 20:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by J.a.c.q.© 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping the youngsters quiet is mainly no longer going to be convenient. Instead of seeking to maintain them fully quiet, simply remind them to maintain the noise stage down somewhat and be certain you do all you'll to "muffle" the entire noise they make. When my husband has to sleep for the duration of the day considering the fact that of his shift (generally), he makes use of a fan within the bed room became on prime. This is helping to drown out the entire noise. Another trick is to place a white noise maker or a fan external the bed room door. That means, if the youngsters cross close the bed room door, the 2 lovers in combination can be much more likely to muffle the sound of them. I have a house daycare and with those ticks, my husbnad is in a position to sleep with none disturbances.
2016-09-05 11:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by pizzaro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm attracted to a man, that I have made advances to; and he has made advances to me. We have been flirting for quite some time now. I know at some point I'm going to sleep with him, we talk about it all the time. But, when I see him in person (we do all of our flirting/foreplay through emails), and when he makes gestures, I'm embarrassed (because I'm shy in person). I get turned off by the gestures in person (when we see eachother eye to eye), but we both want the same thing. So, just go with the plan, and know what she's expecting or wanting at the end of the evening. Everything will be okay then. She just may want to assume that it's going to be sex afterwards without having to mention it. It's much more exciting that way.
2007-03-21 19:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it was the mystery between the both of you, and the unexpectedness of your guy's relationship was what actually your attraction to each other. i guess it might have not so much freaked her out as it did just take away the mystery what was going to happen (even if she knew it was coming). she's either going to forever be turned off to the idea or she might eventually come around again and want to talk. good luck.
2007-03-21 19:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because your sleeping with her doesn't mean she wants you to be that honest, it kind of says i really don't like you i only want to *uck you. Next time think about what you are saying and don't be so honest. It's nicer for it to happen later than to just say that's all you want. Next time go out for dinner and if it happens well so be it. I know i would be put off if my sex buddy said that. It kind of reaffirms that that is all she is to you and nothing more.
2007-03-21 19:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You took the fun out of it. Not everything needs to be bluntly stated it could make a woman feel less like a lady. Essentially you told her if she wasn't willing to put out then she wasn't worth doing dinner with and that my friend was just plain UNKIND.
2007-03-21 19:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have felt insulted that all you want is sex and nothing else. I suggest you apologise and assured her that the next time dinner is on you.
2007-03-21 19:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by SGElite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
News Flashy:
She wants more than just sex with you and she has probably been lying to herself trying to believe that one day you will fall for her.
2007-03-21 19:46:02 · answer #8 · answered by me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little mystery and romance goes a long way!!!
2007-03-21 19:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you crushed her little fantasy she had.
2007-03-21 19:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋