Do I need to just go and try to talk to her?

Question

I've liked this girl since we were 15, when we met. We started talking about 1 month before 2006. 4 months into the year (we were both 16) we still talked until I made a mistake. She told me she was falling in love with someone else (she still talks to him but she's never seriously dated him and she's single) assuming I wouldn't say anything and I told a friend assuming he wouldn't say anything because I needed to talk to someone because I fell in love with her. I didn't know not to say anything or I wouldn't have. He said something about it around her and she got mad at me. She ignored me for a week, then when I went to her she talked to me as if uninterested in what I had to say. She never liked me the same way I liked her (she only liked me as a friend) but she doesn't know that I started to fall in love with her. I gave her a month and a half space. When I talked to her, it was normal until I aked if she was still mad at me, then she said no, she just didn't want to talk to me

anymore. It's been 8 months since then, and collectively about 11 months (which number counts?) I've tried to move on but I feel like I need her friendship back. Could I have given her too much space to where she'd think I must not care since I didn't try my hardest to get her back, and that's why she said she doesn't want to talk to me anymore? When I talked to her online after that about it, she always responded when I said something. Recently, she started watching me when I'm ALONE and I sneak a look at her through the corner of my eyes without moving my head, appearing to ignore her. Usually, she doesn't look at me unless I'm talking to another girl. Most of the time she'll say hi back if I say hi. She'll stand in the lunch line next to mine, facing me, and sneak glances at me. I've caught her and my friend told me she has when I wasn't looking. She'll sit at a table where she'll sneak more looks at me.

I think we're trying to see if the other is looking at the other. Once she walked next to me but I didn't say anything because I was afraid. We also had a very short conversation that I ended out of nervousness. She didn't get mad at me for talking to her. Sometimes it seems like she may want to talk to me, and maybe if I just start a casual conversation (instead of saying how I feel) it could work out.

Answer 1

DO THAT....instead of saying how you feel right away it might freak her out and she may not talk to you for awhile again. Start talking to her little by little with just a casual conversations till your friendship build up :)
I kinda know how you feel right now. I have been in both situations, your side...and her side.
but I can tell you this for sure, she likes you she just doesn't want to tell you, she afraid of your reaction or she'd be afraid of what her friends would think.
oh and she hate to see you talking and paying attention to other girl...she wishes that you could pay attention to her.

Hope I helped out

Mean Puppy

Answer 2

Last year I went throught almost the same thing. But I was the girl in your situtation, and in mine. My guess is that she did like you, but that she may not anymore. I would talk to her though, and just tell her that you want to be friends, and that you want to hang out and be normal. But if you still like her, become friends first. Then start off as if it is the beginng with her. As if you've never had feelings for her before.

Answer 3

Helo, wat is the issue here ? I can't catch anything from this. Anyway, you both did nothing wrong. I've yet to see you both quarrel about anything. Just that, from your explanation, it seems like you both got off a rocky friendship.

So easy to overcome your issues. Walk up her, and talk to her nicely. Whether you like her or she like u, you can start again. This time, do it nicely. Just treat her like your classmate or schoolmate. Nothing wrong in sharing school gossips. U both are too young to date, so just let nature or time takes place, as the more you both catch up with each other, the easier to know about both party mind.

Enjoy the schooling time when you still studying, as once u started study, this type of problem is minor compares to working life.

Answer 4

I was one of those guys who could never talk to the girls I found attractive, and I still have trouble. You need a decent reason to talk to her. Find out if she is any clubs or plays any sports. Try and make friends with her girlfriends. Good luck.

Answer 5

This is a blown case. Look for another girl. Because if you pursue her, she will tease you and hurt you, and never really take it seriously with you. Try not to put her emotions too high in importance, because this world is cold, if you show affection to her feelings in highschool, she automatically looses interest.

Answer 6

yes you probably took to much time to talk to her, the only way you will know if she still likes you is to ask her, or start the relationship from scratch. If she wants to she will probably approach you.

Answer 7

Qn too long. pliz summarise it & count on me to answer it

Answer 8

like i'm going to read that long,.!
my answer is
duuh.! talk to her..! tell her what you wanna say..!