i might just be over thinking things, but i find every little thing wrong. my boyfriend thinks things are fine, but i find myself crying to sleep at night. i really love him, but i think i might be better off alone. what do you think?
2007-03-21 18:58:34 · 20 answers · asked by ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we've been together for a year & a half now. we seem to get through everything. but for some reason, right now i just feel overly depressed. should we try to work this out, or just break it off?
2007-03-21 19:01:47 · update #1
There comes a point in every relationship where you ask yourself - is it still worth it? Well the answer to that question isn't an easy one to find. Relationships are not only about the happiness but also about the sadness you go through. Its about experiencing every emotion together. But there is a limit to how much of a certain emotion you could feel. I's one thign to be happy and one thing to be sad, but there has to be a line drawn somewhere. In the end, a relationship is about being happy with the one you love. the arguments, fights, etc could happen but they shouldn't control or dominate the relationship. Personally I feel that you need to weigh the happiness and the sadness. If you're more happy than sad (say 60-40 in favour of happiness) then In my opinion its still worth sticking around. the moment you're more sad than happy though, I think it might be best for both of you to part ways and find the ones who will give you the happiness you deserve. I hope this answer helps.
2007-03-21 19:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by Nikhil M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's okay. It's possible to love someone yet know that person isn't the one for you. Only you can find the balance between what you "know" and what you "feel". Don't be too quick to dismiss your doubts as "over thinking". If you are not happy don't ignore that (you'll make yourself miserable - and him too eventually) focus on trying to figure out what in the relationship is not working then you can decide if it's stuff you two can work thru together. If you ignore your doubts the relationship becomes a mockery. Just two people going thru the motions, you both deserve better.
2007-03-21 19:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by lincolns_hat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is meant to be enjoy. It is an avenue where person(s) involve have to grow as a whole person. (morally ,spiritually,socially ). Feeling down everytime is a sign that the relationship is not healthy. I think you need to consider things like: Am I so dependent on the relationship that much that I dont have my own decisions? Am I growing in the relationship? Am I contributing to the growth of my partner? does my partner show concern as to where the relationship is going?
Being alone will give you time to think things over.
2007-03-21 19:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by john1:12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there might be something unerlying this all. You may be happy with him, but there must be something that feels like it is missing?? Are you guys affectionate? Are you wanting that at night when you go to bed, or have things changed drastically and you are not sure of how to cope with the change? I was like this with my ex husband and sometimes the answer is to try to see other people. You may find what you need in someone else. good luck!
2007-03-21 19:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by misfit1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not enough information to answer this question all the way. You need to think about what you are unhappy about. If you are crying yourself to sleep every night, something is wrong - but it might not be your relationship.
I suggest you see a counselor to work this out.
2007-03-21 19:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by katrinaro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe if you take some time apart. You should never be sad in a relationship, let alone crying over it. It should be a happy thing. See how things go if your apart for a while... Good luck.
2007-03-21 19:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by lozzy_x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why be in a relationship and be sad? you should ask yourself that question. Having ups' and downs' in a relationship is normal, but if it's just you who's having more downs' that means there's something wrong.
Could it be there's a third party? I used to be in a relationship where everything seems to be fine, but my feelings doesn't go along with the facade. He tried to conceal it with lies and deceptions but I can feel there's something wrong, until he broke up with me, without knowing what's the cause. Eventhough I feel something wrong, but I don't know what it is. Until I spoke to his sister and told me about the other girl. And that's when I knew why I feel empty, and sad inside... and eventhough he was there for me, I just can't feel him.
Just trust your instinct.
2007-03-21 19:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by truecolours 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it alright to be sad because of a relationship? No. If the person is the reason for your unhappiness then you should leave the relationship. If you are unhappy regardless of the relationship then seek psychological help elsewhere (therapist). Good luck.
2007-03-21 19:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by charles_rainbuckets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love him you being sad might not have anything to do with him. Find out what is making you sad and talk to him to see if he can help. Relationships are never going to be perfect.
2007-03-21 19:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by mojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one here knows your exact relationship like you do. but i would guess that if you're crying at night on guilt, then you may be hiding something from him?? truth sets you free. if you can't pinpoint why you're crying, you really need to sit down and have a talk with him and have him reassure you that things are fine and that you two WILL get through these tough times for you.....and you will. give it time. but you will.
2007-03-21 19:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by mike 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋