i met this guy 6 months ago and we hit it off imediately. its been like the best I've ever had coz hes so good to me, the sex is great and we really enjoy being with each other. problem is he had a girlfriend back in his home country(we are both far from Home) who has his baby. he did not tell me about it but when i found out, he came clean. i know they are still together but it has never really bothered me. i just found out that she plans to come over to him in a few weeks and he hasnt said anything........ things are normal between us he even says he loves me and has been at my house for the last week. he lies to her that hes still alone and he loves her. i know its gonna hurt to lose him to her and am torn between letting her know that i exist or not. i feel that its not fair i'll be hurting alone while he gets away with havin both of us and i also feel that she deserves to know the kind of man she intends to get married to. or maybe just be silent and cry alone? whats best? help!!!
2007-03-21 18:54:19 · 9 answers · asked by cherie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think about his child and the momma. They are the ones that deserve much more sympathy. You were duped, he is playing you. Tell him you do not want to see him again unless he chooses you. You can only be played a fool any longer by being a fool. L
Also, listen to what the first man said!
2007-03-21 19:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by LUCY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRRLLL!!!! What are u thinkin? What is so great about your relationship with him? After finding out about the other woman and the baby, it didn't bother you? Perhaps because they were far away, but now they are coming and you will more than likely ( if you continue seeing him) meet her and the child , which is sure to make u more uncomfortable about the situation. Be a grown woman and walk away, there is no need to tell her anything. That is his responsibility, let hime be the man he needs to become. As for you, cry the river, build the bridge and get over it!
2007-03-21 19:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by DJA30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You knew she was there and it didn't bother you. You knew exactly what you were getting into. However, for the "safety" of the baby, you should probably tell her about your relationship with him. But don't expect that telling her and breaking up their relationship will make him come running to you - because it'll probably ruin your relationship as well. Sad that you hit it off with a guy whose cheating on his girlfriend, and left his kid in a foreign country.
2007-03-21 19:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by Katie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself, "he stayied with you for a whole week" he wants to spend time with you before he has to go back. he might love the girl but the only reason he stays with her is the baby and the bonds that they all have. Just cause of that does not mean you cant have he. i doesnt. you need to tell her. and i think he likes your more but in his mind he will feel less of a man if he leaves his family(baby) not really the other girl.
2007-03-21 19:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by Victor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl when you found out that he was involved with another women you should have left and you didn't then that was your decision. don't mess up a happy home just because you are not happy. This was your descion to be his sideline chick. Now live with it and get over it. Too many men in the seas find another and let them be happy
2007-03-21 19:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you knew he had someon else, you put yourself in that situation. You have no right ot be angry. Back off and see what happens. Give the poor child at least a chance to have two parents. If it doesn't work and you want to go back just remember this: If he will run around on her with you, he will run around on you with someone else. (What he will do with you, he will do to you!!)
2007-03-21 19:06:51 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a masochist.
you are slated to be the mistress.you really don't want to go there. he has no right to put you in that position. this is all wrong
you need a life that isn't complicated by somebody's selfish needs. find somebody who wants you and only you. sure you'll feel like you are losing something but stop and consider.......what?
2007-03-21 19:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to be a man and tell her before she comes all
the way over here...
2007-03-21 18:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave now let them be and go do your own thing. He's a lier just go
2007-03-21 18:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋