i met this guy 6 months ago and we hit it off imediately. its been like the best I've ever had coz hes so good to me, the sex is great and we really enjoy being with each other. problem is he had a girlfriend back in his home country(we are both far from Home) who has his baby. he did not tell me about it but when i found out, he came clean. i know they are still together but it has never really bothered me. i just found out that she plans to come over to him in a few weeks and he hasnt said anything........ things are normal between us he even says he loves me and has been at my house for the last week. he lies to her that hes still alone and he loves her. i know its gonna hurt to lose him to her and am torn between letting her know that i exist or not. i feel that its not fair i'll be hurting alone while he gets away with havin both of us and i also feel that she deserves to know the kind of man she intends to get married to. or maybe just be silent and cry alone? whats best? help!!!
2007-03-21 18:51:28 · 8 answers · asked by james k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So, he didnt tell you about this woman with his child, he only admitted it when you had already found out?? Bad sign. You know they are still together... another bad sign. He says he loves you?? SO WHAT.... hes still with the other woman. He lies to her... another bad sign. Do you think that if you tell her about you and him, that he will leave her and come to you?? He might not, he might tell her you are lying and she will stay with him. He might tell her the truth, and she might stay with him anyway........... you did after all. Also, do you really want him if he will only be with you because the other woman has dumped him?? He is a loser, and doesnt deserve either one of you.
2007-03-21 19:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by Lauren J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you should confront him. Ask him whats going on? Where you two stand and whats going on with the other girl? To me it sounds like he is using both of you, and is he really worth this pain? Well i hope you figure everything out.
2007-03-22 01:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by lozzy_x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See, this guy seems to be caring and honest but he s definitely not clear ( to both u gals)..
I think may be he himself needs some time to decide wat he wants from life.. may be he s just confused.. talk to him about it but if u feel like he s just playing around( either with u or the other gal), better kick him on his *** coz u never know wat he doing with the other gal, he might repeat the same with u..
So, for now, dont flow in emotions, be practical. Talk to him patiently, take ur decision and stick to it.
2007-03-22 01:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is a jerk, hes using the both of you, tell her and dont make things any worse by continuing this, do the right thing.
2007-03-22 01:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by Out of Reach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell him he needs to make up his mind and choose.its $ucks to lose but if you make him stay and he doesnt want to hes going to hold it against you.
2007-03-22 01:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Tazz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kinda think you should let her know. either way you should definately dump him. you do not deserve that!
2007-03-22 01:54:57 · answer #6 · answered by mandi.marie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
y share
2007-03-22 01:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one can help you except you alone.
2007-03-22 01:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by bigjake a 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋